I am leaving for basic in October and requesting to be sent to 29 Palms so I can be with my fiance, also a marine. Is being engaged enough to guarantee me being assigned there? I know if we are actually married I'll be sent there for sure, but we aren't ready for that yet. Any advice or opinions?

Disengage.

I wasnt even going to comment on this one Jim. It has trouble written all over it.

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Originally posted by 18426243:
I am leaving for basic in October and requesting to be sent to 29 Palms so I can be with my fiance, also a marine. Is being engaged enough to guarantee me being assigned there? I know if we are actually married I'll be sent there for sure, but we aren't ready for that yet. Any advice or opinions?

My advice? continue with the relationship and let nature take its course.

If you two have a STRONG RELATIONSHIP and are mature about it you'll be togther forever.

If not, break up is in the midst, but life goes on.

As you can see, being engaged is not enough for the USMC to send you to the Stumps.

I know of a couple that endured a lot of separations through the years. They got together in H.S. and afterwards, separate colleges and military service kept them apart. But they endured because THEY WAITED. So ten years after becoming a couple, they got married.

They gave their relationship a lot of thought and at the sametime they saw what they needed to do in life (i.e. finish school, establish careers). They both saw what life would bring them and learned how to fit their relationship in.

That couple has been together now for nineteen years, been married for almost nine, the guy is a Major in the Army and apparently they still go through separations when he deploys.

Do you two have to be that couple? Not necessarily, every couple is different. But what you have to do is establish yourself as a Marine first and see what direction your life will take from there. Then see how you can fit the relationship in.

Quite frankly, from your post, you're too worried about your relationship more than becoming a Marine. Hey, that's understandable that you want to be with your fiance, but you need to establish your life first!

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Originally posted by 18426243:
I am leaving for basic in October and requesting to be sent to 29 Palms so I can be with my fiance, also a marine. Is being engaged enough to guarantee me being assigned there? I know if we are actually married I'll be sent there for sure, but we aren't ready for that yet. Any advice or opinions?

nothing in life is guaranteed, especially in the Marine Corps.

I wouldn't make too many plans for you and your fiance just yet.

requesting where you'll be stationed is at the discretion of the Corps. It depends on need for your job in 29 Palms. If you are needed elsewhere, the Corps wil put you there.

also keep in mind that we have 2 wars going on right now, so there is a good chance one or both of you could be deployed.

i'd like to say that you and your fiance will live happily ever after and you'll be stationed together, and everything will be perfect. but this is no fairytale.

if your relationship is strong, you'll be able to make it through separation.

i think you're getting a little ahead of yourself. first things first. you must complete boot camp and MOS training first before you get stationed anywhere.

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Originally posted by 18426243:
I am leaving for basic in October and requesting to be sent to 29 Palms so I can be with my fiance, also a marine. Is being engaged enough to guarantee me being assigned there? I know if we are actually married I'll be sent there for sure, but we aren't ready for that yet. Any advice or opinions?

I am shocked that you, being engaged to a Marine, do not know the difference between Army "basic" and USMC "Boot Camp" and/or "Recruit Training."

18426243:

No, being engaged WILL NOT get you stationed together. Being married does not GUARANTEE being stationed together. The Marine Corps will do what is best for the Corps and then try to place you together or as close as possible.

In your case, it would make it much easier on the Corps decision making of you or HIM were in a general enough MOS that would be useful at any Marine Corps Unit. What I mean is an MOS that is used at every base, like Admin, Supply, Motor-t, etc.

Since he is already in, if you haven't decided what you want to do, you might think about what I just said.

I had a friend that was an ammo tech stationed at Lejuene. His wife (also an ammo tech) was stationed at Pendelton, marriage/engagement does not guarentee anything.
It would also do you some good to talk to your fiance and get some insight into the Corp before you go, here is a quick lesson for you;
1: Marine is ALWAYS capatilized
2: Marines go to bootcamp, soldiers go to basic

Watch out for Jody.

He's waiting for you to get onto the bus.