I want to enlist but two different Recruiters have told me I can't enlist with three dependents but could go Marine Reserves. Now I'm NOT married at this time. IF I were to be married before enlisting I would have my wife and two children. They both said to get married after boot camp. I just don't feel right about doing that. I don't know why. I didn't plan on getting married until November of this year anyway though.
Also I'm 29 years of age and I wonder if that has anything to do with it. Thanks for any help or advice.
Well they said I should enlist then get married later and it just doesn't seem right to me somehow. Maybe it's just me. I always hear people say that not all recruiters are always straight with you.
on initial entry for the Corps, you can only have 2 dependants for waiver purposes. It has to do with financial stability.
If you enlist and only your 2 children are listed as dependants then the waiver wil be approved get married and you will have 3 dependants and the only waiver will be approved for joining the reserves. After boot camp, you get 10 days leave. Get married and she is added as a dependant and nothing will be said other than where is the marriage certificate, and her birth cert. and ssn. so she can be added to the system. If you think it sounds weird now, just wait until you see all the waiver documents for it.
They aren't messing with you. They are being honest about that waiver.
Thank you for your answers and help. They just weren't being very clear about it as you were. Also they are not my children but hers from her previous marriage. We have been together forever so they are like mine you could say.
They said even though they are not "mine" they are once I'm married as far as they are concerned.
Originally posted by john7827: I will enlist as single cause I am right now.
Smart man. Because once you get married those kids become your legal responsibility. If you get married before Boot, that's more paperwork (i.e. waiver for dependency---more than 2) you have to worry about.
Your recruiters are abo****ely right DO NOT get married until after bootcamp. If you do then you will be DQ'd for to many dependants. I enlisted an applicant who was in the same situation. All you'll have to do is get a letter from your girlfriend/fiance stating how she'll support herself and her kids while you're in bootcamp and a financial statement. On you ten day leave then get married so her and your children will be able to recieve the medical, dental, and other benefits.
