Glad to have found this site. Our son just left on Monday April 4 for basic and we are miserable. Of three children he is the only one who went military and the last to leave. Did anyone else walk around their house not knowing how they were going to eat or sleep or laugh again? He let us know when he got to Georgia and then we texted a lot while he was at the airport and on the bus,, a lot on his bus ride then he had to go and now we do not know when we will hear from him again or if it will be a phone call or letter. Please tell us it does get better
Yes, it does get better. Sometimes they can call when they are in processing. You will get a letter soon which will give you their address so that you can write. My son loved getting letters when he was in bootcamp. I think every bootcamp is different my son went to Fort Leonard Wood but he usually got to call home every Sunday. The first week or so is the hardest and then you will get into a routine and life will go on as usual. My son's first duty station after bootcamp was Korea. So in the time he has been in the Army (almost two years) we have seen him for about a month total. You are just going to have to learn to be Army Family Strong!
The time goes by quickly. Write him lots of letters. Save his letters, you'll want to read them again later. Until you get his address, which will probably come by letter, possibly official or possibly from him, number your letters so he knows what order to read them. Even after you get an address, number the letters because they might not arrive sequentially.
Phone calls home are a privilege. If he is allowed that privilege then expect calls on Sundays. My son always called about 10:00 a.m. but that was just his troop. It's liable to be at any time between 8:00 a.m. and 8:00 p.m. However, it likely will be around the same time every week.
There could be weeks when he doesn't get to call. It might be his fault or it could be someone else. Remember, they train as one so if one messes up then they all pay for it.
Start making your plans for Family Day. I haven't been through it for Infantry but I know it was a big deal for Cav Scout. If you can, go to both Family Day (actually a weekend) and graduation. Personally, I think Family Day is more important as that is the first time he will get to see you in eight weeks.
Is he going Airborne or regular ground pounder? If the latter then he should get leave right after OSUT. If the former, he might just transition straight from OSUT to Airborne school (same location).
Thank you for the replies. What is OSUT? I think he said he is 11 charlie and will be going to AIT after basic. We didn't really understand all he was saying, and it seemed he didn't know if they would have family day. He talked to one person who said yes and another said they didn't. If he does and wants we will be there. Do they have graduation after basic another after AIT or is it just one? We don't know how to be Army strong or even know what normal is anymore. He wasn't only our youngest son (so now the nest is empty) he is our best friend. We just walk around feeling really sorry for ourselves and missing him terribly. Been doing a lot of driving and walking trying to find normal. Would he have gotten his uniform today?
OSUT is where they go to Basic and AIT all together. My son did that as an MP so they really didnt get a break between basic ans starting AIT but it is different for each MOS. You will get a letter that will tell you when family day and graduation is. Definitely make plans to go. You will be so proud! They change alot and really grow up. My son was our middle child but he was our last son at home. My husband had a harder time then I did because Chris and him did so much together. But i promise you it will get easier! Write lots of letters. They get uniforms pretty early in the process I think.
Excuse us but MOS? Is there a glossary of these terms somewhere?
All we seem to do is cry a lot and that seems so,,, not right. Patrick would not like that so I feel I am letting him down. We couldn't even go to work today. It helps knowing other parents have gone through this,, not a lot of information or support for the parents that we have been able to find, I guess I understand that. It seems most people have little experience with the military and just do not understand what we are going through.
MOS is what job they are doing for example my son is a 31B which is an MP. My husband is a 89A. Every job has a different code. Yes the military has a lot of initials. You will figure it out I promise. I know it seems hard now but you need to find something to fill your time and before you know it you will get to see him at family day/graduation. These forums will help and you can get a lot of information here. You have to be strong for your son because he will probably go thru a time where he is homesick and you have to be strong for him! He has to concentrate on what he is doing and not worry about you.
Thank you. We are trying. Yesterday we had an ice cream cone. Can't say as we tasted them but we saw the sign and thought if he was with us we would get one so we did. We have been driving and walking for two days with the dogs, one is Patricks. Lots of talking about how we are feeling. Never would have thought our world would stop so suddenly. Tomorrow will be a big day for us as we go back to work. We both called off for a few days. But for one more day we are walking. We have written him every night so his first letter is going to be quite long I am afraid. I better buy stamps and envelopes so the second his address arrives I can send it out. Funny he needed them to take, why didn't I think we would need them to.
I have been reading a lot of old posts on here and we have been drawing a lot of strength from all those who have been here and done this. This is such a life line for us.
Hello...I am glad that you wrote about how you feel about your son. My son also left on April 4th to Fort Benning. We heard from him the day he arrived. He is married and she let me know that he called. We still have not heard from him either. We miss him soo much and also have doubts with him joining the Army. I know he will be fine and all but in reality I wish when they have a child and wife they should let them call at least a few times a week. I am just going through many mixed emotions right now.
WOW, I wonder if our sons will be in the same group? What state are you from? Minnesota here and they told Patrick 6 others were going from here. We are still so mixed up but it is getting better. I never thought I could miss anyone as much as I miss him, night is the worst for me. The house is much to quiet then, empty nest now and no contact. Keep in touch it will be nice to have someone to compare notes with.
I just left Ft Benning where my son just graduated from the Army. I am also new to all of this. He is my first born and I have been in shock and tears. Don't get me wrong I am so very proud of him, but he was the one who made me laugh. I had to leave him down there for Airborne which wasn't the worst, it is knowing when he is done he gets deployed overseas. I have been crying all day.
Unless he already has orders to a unit and knows they are deploying, he isn't necessarily going to be deployed immediately. The unit he is assigned to might just be coming back, or will be coming back shortly, from deployment so he could be in garrison for the next 15-18 months.
Even if he already has orders to a unit, it is possible that these orders could change for a variety of reasons. My son received his first orders to 2ID in Korea about two weeks before he finished training. We were on the way out the door to the airport when he received a call that his orders had been changed to 3ID at Ft. Stewart, GA.
my son leaves for Ft Benning May 7th he has wanted to join the military for a few years now and is very excited & nervous at the same time I am the one on the brink of tears hes my baby and we will be empty nesters as well. It helps to know we are not alone. We can't pick our childrens paths in life but we can be supportive and encouraging.
My son went off into the Marine Corps in '06 and I did OK with that. When he deployed to the Middle East in 2010, I had a hard time with that. It made me realize what my own parents must have gone through when I was off in the Caribbean with the USCG boarding smuggler boats. Seemed like a blast to me but they must have been losing sleep as I did in reference to my son.
It's tough on parents, the "having to let go" part. Even hearing about his pay problems and knowing there wasn't squat I could do to help was somewhat bothersome but letting him handle his own problems is something every parent needs to go through sooner or later.
thank you very much! we are throwing his going away party 3 weeks till hes off! I am glad to hear that your son and your family made it thru!I'm ok letting go it's good for him to move to the next stage in his life I have a hard time with the craziness that goes on in this world, I am more scared than anything. I'm sure you understand having had your son in the Middle East
I've got a question. My son left on Tuesday, the 16th. He texted me from Atlanta airport while he was waiting with a lot of other new recruits. I haven't heard a thing since then. I thought new recruits were supposed to get a quick call when they got to base. Now, I'm worried.
I received my call today. The only problem was I couldn't hear him, and he couldn't hear me. He tried calling my cell 5 times, my home 5 times, and his sister's cell 2 times. Finally, we just had to text back and forth. I'm so happy that I got to hear from him, but so sad that I didn't get to hear his voice. At least now, I can save his texts and read them.