I have two very close friends of mine who just got married down in tennesse where he is stationed. My question is he would like to change his last name to one last name instead of it being hyphanated (sp) and she would like to get her last name changed to his as well. They are not sure whether they need to come to MI to change their last names or because they are military they need to change their last names in the state where he is stationed. Does anyone know any information regarding this?? Any information would be greatly appreciated since he is to deploy soon and they want to try and get it done before deployment. Thank You
|"Primum non nocere"|
I know when I was a Soldier and wanted to change my name after I got married, all I had to do was go through my S1 (military personnel) office and submit a name change request. I just needed a copy of my marriage certificate.
The real fun is when you need to get your driver's license, social security card, etc. changed. Those generally have to be done through the issuing agency (or you can do as I did and just change driver's license to the state in which you live or your sponsor's home of record state the next time you're home for a visit).
We never know how high we are
Until we are called to rise,
And then, if we are true to plan,
Our statures touch the skies.
|Lead Mod Navy and Recconect America Forums|
Democracy will survive until the government figures out it can bribe the people with their own money.
I agree with the above. I will add:
Everyone I watched who hyphenated or otherwise combined their last names while in the service changed their minds later for 2 reasons:
1) getting your name put on a nametape was a pain in the rear
2) Some of those that work with you will refuse to call you by your full last name. It takes to long and is a pain.
Hell, when I changed my name half the guys still called me by my maiden name. it was just too ingrained. last names are your name in the military.
Highly Experienced Member
14000 posts as Cider33Alpha
Hyphenating my last name was the worst mistake I ever made in the military. It effects EVERYTHING: pay records, retirement pay, bank accounts, Social Security ... you name it.
Most of my credit cards, etc., are just in my married (ex, as it happens) name, not the hyphenated military version, as is my stateside driver's license, but ALL of my military and federal stuff are in the hyphenated form.
It's a nightmare.
My advice to BOTH your friends would be to choose one name and avoid any hyphenation. And yeah, trying to get a hyphenated version on a nametape (unless it's something like Ur-Ga) is a serious PITA. In fact, I have two tapes: one hyphenated (when I have to be REALLY correct) and one with just the married last name, which I use most of the time and that's how I answer the phone.
Another PITA: my AKO address is unhyphenated, but my most commonly used (AMEDD) address is hyphenated. Try explaining THAT.
Highly Experienced Member
"Every Saint has a past, Every Sinner has a future"
Also think of the effect on your career. If you have been in long enough to start making a name for yourself, change it and that all drops by the wayside. Know a pilot who married after being in for about 8-10 years and she kept her maiden name for that reason.This message has been edited. Last edited by: sgtmom,
Everything becomes a little clearer, I realize what life is all about. It's hangin' on when your heart has had enough, It's giving more when you feel like giving up.
~ In My Daughter's Eyes, Martina McBride
Military Spouses Forum
I'm all for professional names and, if desired, married names. One of the senior managers that I work with is on her third or fourth name since she joined the company 10 years ago. I don't even know what her last name is right now and couldn't even send her an email today if I wanted to. We have a couple of women in the office that have been married for a few years and everyone still refers to them by their maiden names.
I worked with an attorney at one time and he decided to hyphenate his name with hers and vice versa. She was a model so she wanted people to still realize who she was. Fortunately, since he was a name partner, we didn't change the name of the firm but we did have to change all the letterhead and no one, except in official correspondence, ever called him by his hyphenated name. He then got divorced and we had to get all new letterhead again. Big PITA for the admin staff.
I actually like the way that Hispanics do their names. The father might be Sanchez and the mother Lopez. Both would keep those names on marriage but their children would be Sanchez-Lopez.
Regardless, hyphenated names can be a big PITA. Some government agencies won't even recognize certain hyphenated names. For instance, O'Day-Smith would be rejected on many computer systems because it has more than one special character. Because of all that, I agree with Cider about avoiding the hyphenation.
my questions is if i choose to keep my legal last name will that effect me getting benefits from my husband once he does all the paperwork required?
Military Life, Spouses & Community
11185 posts as navywifeinparadise
No it does not mean anything at all. Lots of women keep their maiden name.
|Powered by Social Strata|