I am not sure if this is the right place to put this. My DH is finishing up school, and we haven't gotten orders yet.One of the places he put on his "dream sheet" is Germany. I love it there, with my first DH I was there from 84-91, We lived on the economy for almost 4 of those years and I was very close to my landlords, and thier sons, they were like brothers to me. Over the years we lost touch,and I would love to go "home" to Germany, but I am scared to death what I will find when I get there. My landlords were older,and a big part of me knows they wont be there when I get there.Has anyone else had to go threw this?
Well, the old saying - "You can't go home" is true. You can go back there but things will never be the same as you remember them. That is life and we have to accept that and move forward. If you do go back you can make new memories while there.
Sgt Mom
Everything becomes a little clearer, I realize what life is all about. It's hangin' on when your heart has had enough, It's giving more when you feel like giving up. ~ In My Daughter's Eyes, Martina McBride
I am so torn. I got there when I was only 17, with my idiot DH, never got to see anything, I know this time will be so much better, it is just the going "home" and finding who I have lost that bothers me.
I just went through the same thing. My dad did 2 tours at Yokota, for a total of 11 years, so I pretty much grew up in Japan. When my DH got orders to Yokota I was eccstatic to be going "home". Of course so much has changed here, it's not the same as it was when I was growing up, but it's still a wonderful place and I am beyond happy to be here again and to be giving my own children the same wonderful opportunities I had. And it's been great getting to share such a treasured part of my past w/ my DH!
If you fear the possibility of finding out bad news about the family you knew before, then let that stay a good memory and don't investigate. Now is a great opportunity to make new memories with the new DH, and maybe end up with even more "brothers." However, if they were like brothers, they would probably cherish the chance to see you again, even if it meant sharing some heartbreaking news. That's what you do with family (and extended families), you help each other through the hurt, and then move on to new great memories.
