You see my fiancee left for bootcamp nearly two months ago. When we got engaged we wanted to wait until his two years of Nuclear A school training was through before we got married.

I just found out last week that I was three months pregnant. I wrote my fiancee a letter telling him I was pregnant, and I also talked to his recruiter. They told me that since he is aleady nearly done with his training in bootcamp that he should just wait until he graduates before he tells anyone.

He plans on going to his Petty officer when he reports to his Nuclear A school. I was told by his recruiter that if he doesn't marry me or I take full custody of the child he can not go on active duty. I understand that part. But my question is; What will his Petty Officer tell him to do when he gets to A school? Will he send him home to get married and report back, or what?

I would appreciate it if someone who's been in the Navy could answer this, because I'm scared as hell right now.

MAIN QUESTION: What will the Leading Petty Officer tell him when he tells him I'm pregnant? Anyone know?

okay for one, it is doubtful that he will get kicked out.. you can prove that he was UNAWARE that you were pregnant. he enlisted in good faith thinking he had no dependents.

he left 2 months ago, you just got a positive pregnancy test dated last week. so he can honestly say he was unaware when he shipped out.

that being said: the chances of him having any free time to get married are about negative 5. They aren't going to let him not start A school on time and there is NO leave permitted while in A school except during the last two weeks of December.

the child will be eligible for TRICARE as soon as it is born. you are entitled to nothing until you get married.


Catherine, one of the Navy Mods is a former Nuke Instructor. she may have some advice.

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Originally posted by Mrsjvb:
Catherine, one of the Navy Mods is a former Nuke Instructor. she may have some advice.

I'm here!

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What will the Leading Petty Officer tell him when he tells him I'm pregnant? Anyone know?

More than likely the question will be when is she due?

He is not the first nor will he be the last one this happens to.

For one, him stating that you are pregnant once he gets ther won't hurt him. There's more than enough evidence that he didn't know before he left. The instructors and advisors there are cool as long as they aren't blindsided, so telling them asap before you have the kid and get married is the much better option.

Wont effect his clearance, either

A few other points:as Mrs pointed out, time off there is rare. I mean very, very, rare. They will not give him special concideration in this regard to marry you, move you, etc. That said, they do encourage guys to get out when they get a chance...but god help them if they come back late for any reason, or short their mandatory in-classroom study hours. If he's lucky he'll get 4 days off for Thanksgiving, but usually they say to count on working that Friday. Columbus day weekend if off at A-school and power school, Not at prototype (they count the first 2 as shore duty for staff, the third is a quasi-fictitious shore duty for staff). The first real leave he will be allowed will be at Christmas, but don't expect it to be the full 2 weeks. It depends on a few things, and he will find out for sure when he gets there when it is. Doing the math in my head, if they make him a MM he may be between schools for Christmas, which could work out well for you, or against you depending on the timing of it all. As I said, he'll know more when he gets there.

If you get married, move down there, etc. DO NOT distract him from school or get mad at him when he's putting in 35+ hours a week on top of school. Getting through requires all the concentraion you can muster sometimes, and married guys struggle a lot because their relationships get in the way of their school quite often.

Don't expect him to get baby leave, either. Maybe the day you have the kid off (if you're in the area) or a few days if he's in between schools, but beyond that nothing.

Thank you for that information, Catherine.

I have one more question to ask you. I've researched his A-School and during Phase two of NMT he gets a liberty radius of 400 miles. Me and my family want to know if getting married during liberty on the base or here at home, is permitted. Like with a special chit approved by the LPO, or something.

Do you have any suggestions?

Thanks so much.

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Originally posted by LaDeDaey:
I have one more question to ask you. I've researched his A-School and during Phase two of NMT he gets a liberty radius of 400 miles.

I'm trying to think about this right now. I remember going to Orlando over a weekend once while in Aschool and in Power School.....So yea, I guess it would have to be 400 miles. It was shorter at prototype, but we were upstate NY in the winter so that makes sense.

Anywhoo. As long as it's in the liberty limit they really don't care where he goes as long as he's back not only before mandatory study hours start on Sunday night, but also in enough time to complete all his hours for the week. They have what's known there as tack hours, which have to be put in at a certain period every night Sunday through Thursday. For example if he's on 15-2's (the most common) He has 15 hours per week ordered extra study in the school with at least 2 hours put in every night Sunday-Thursday sometime between 6 and 9 (when the Duty instructors are in). Do the math, and if you do the bare minimum during the week you owe 5 extra over the weekend. For some reason many idiots did that there. I never got it. Liked having as much of the weekend to myself as I could....Sorry, rambling. If he shorts his hours in a week for anything, it's his fault. And trust me, it really is.

He should at least inform his LPO as to what's going on before he does it, and the most he'd need is to submit a chit not asking for permission to marry, but just to inform the chain of command as to what's going on so they can start the wheels in motion and get things set up for when it actually happens. He will also need to inform them of your due date, etc. Getting the marriage licence will be on your own time, which will more than likely be the biggest hurdle with him in school from 7-4 at a min Mon-Fri. They won't give him extra time off for it. Other than that, as I said, as long as he doesn't short his hours they don't care what he does on his off time....typically the first punishment after shorting hours is to raise mando-study to 35 hours per week, so do everything possible to avoid it, please.