I'm new to this & I'm feeling alone. Dakota left for basic & is almost done. I've been writing letter that say everythings fine. I need to vent. I feel so alone & just like I need to cry. I can't tell him that. I don't really have any family to help me. His family can't stand me. Yet, I could be any other woman & they would still feel the same. Even after 2+ years & living together for a year. He's my whole world. Now I just feel lost. How do you deal with everyday life? When you feel like you aren't whole. I don't dare tell him this. I guess I just need someone to lean on & maybe help as well.

You take it one day at a time. That's all you can do. You keep yourself busy, do what you need to do and just continue to write to him.

I don't know how your relationship is with your fiance, but I never left anything out with my husband when he was away at BCT.

It's okay to miss him and cry, it's healthy to let out your feelings, but make sure you don't let it take you over. If you just take it one day at at time and count the Fridays till you are with him again, then it should go by quickly. I used to count the Fridays, it helped me get by.

Plus the wonderful people here often gave great advice and I just ended up having fun being here in this forum

Everyone goes through a period of adjustment when their loved one leaves for basic training/boot camp.

I never kept anything from my husband because he knew me too well - if I tried to hide anything he would know. I think in a way it is comforting for them to know you miss them so much.

Just take it a day at a time. Keep busy. You may want to buy a journal to write in daily too - it does help to get things out instead of letting it all build up like this.


Sgt Mom

My fiance graduated from basic just a few weeks ago.

One thing that he really liked (it also helped me) was putting a countdown in his letters. In the upper right hand corner, I'd put "15 days to go!" and each day, count it down. It seemed to fly and he loved seeing just how close he was getting.

Thanks for all the advice. I guess, I just can't bring myself to let him know that right now. I know that it'll make him worry and not have such a level head on his shoulders. It's hard because most times we talk about everything. I've never had to hide anything from him. I was keeping it from him because that's what his recuter said was best. Plus, I just want to keep sending him happy thoughts and not more worries of the everyday life. Everyone knows he has enough to worry about. I've been writting it down and I'll give it to him after he is done with basic. I know he'll understand. He's such a wonderful and understaand man. I guess that's why I'm so lonely without him. I've been keeping myself busy but it just doesn't help me miss him any less. I guess we'vedone so much together that everywhere I look something makes me think about him. I know that he feels the same because he says so everytime we talk or he writes to me.