My daughter is with me right now and my husband is doing a tour in Korea and is due back in march. But I want to join ASAP and I wanted to know if she will be able to go over there and stay with him while I go to bootcamp and ait.
Also can I volunteer for korea? becAuse i am pretty sure i can and when i do get orders to korea will my husband and baby stay there or how does that work?
thanks in advance for any help you can offer.
God bless.

Korea is normally unaccompanied - no family. So your daughter could not go over there and stay with him. She would have to go to some other family like your parents or his. You may or may not be required to surrender custody legally to go into the Army with him in Korea.

By the time you finished training and could get orders he would be close to coming home from Korea. The only way he could stay there is if they allowed him to extend for another year. Again - you may not be able to have your daughter over there even with both of you there.

They "try" to co-locate for married couples but the needs of the military are first and foremost so don't count on being together much.



Sgt Mom

first,make sure you can even enlist. since you have a child and your spouse is also Military,they may say you can only go Reserves and NOT Active Duty.

but No, your child could not go to Korea while you are in training. Besides, by the time you get to Korea, he'll be done with his tour and be PCSing someplace else.

actually she was born in korea last year we were over there with my husband last year so it can be an accompanied tour he just needs command sponsorship..
my question was can she be sent over there with him i know she can live there but since i'm not there and im in bct and stuff will they let her stay there with him without me there..

there is something called joint domicile where we will go everywhere together but im wondering if i am done before its time for him to pcs and my orders do say korea will they keep him there..

hope that makes some sense.

thanks for the help!

They can't garuntee co-location. EVER. They can reccomend it, but if you're needed elsewhere that's where you go. As a female, certain locations have different numbers of slots available.

Command sponsorship isn't that easy all the time

Is your husband getting out?

As MRS pointed out, you may not be eligible to enlist at all, and if they do allow it they expect a SOLID familyy care plan, meaning they need a form filled out and notorized stating where the child will go if you both are deployed at the same time. If you are unwilling to fill out that paperwork you chances are zero for entry.

all the married military members ive heard of all have joint domicile and almost always go together everywhere.
no he's not getting out yet.
that is my question if i put on that paperwork that she will be with her father in korea then it should be ok but i was wondering if they let her over there with out me you know what im saying? im not quite sure how to ask the dag gon question... but i think you know what im trying to say..
i didn't know they wont let you enlist because of children i dont really understand though.

well any other advice would really help. thanks again.

You could have him ask his command if they would be willing to grant him command sponsorship for your baby, since she will be the only one over there with him. I'm thinking the answer is going to be no though. And what is he going to do for a family care plan while it is just the two of them?

he is the father .. she will be with him. she was with me while he went to bct and stuff whats the difference??

i mean thats why im asking because i dont fully understand all this yet.

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Originally posted by 14802023:
all the married military members ive heard of all have joint domicile and almost always go together everywhere.

I couldnt, my sister could. Depends on what's available at the time of assignment. If in Korea they don't need a female in your MOS at time of assignment you're not going to Korea. Period. They don't just adjust manning levels to allow you to be assigned together....esp not in areas that are expensive enough for them to operate in as it is.

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that is my question if i put on that paperwork that she will be with her father in korea then it should be ok but i was wondering if they let her over there with out me you know what im saying? im not quite sure how to ask the dag gon question... but i think you know what im trying to say..

How would she get there and who would take care of her there? When is your husbands tour up? Will they even sponsor her for the remainder of his tour there? They'll want to know this at entry before they even concider it.

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i didn't know they wont let you enlist because of children i dont really understand though.

Actually makes total sense. If they have to deploy you for any reason at hte same time to a war zone or something, they NEED to know that the child will be taken care of....and as I said they will NEVER garuntee that the possibilty of dual deployment to a war zone or somewhere unaccompanied at the same time is out of the question. Even currently married dual military with kids have to have the care plan filled out, if not one gets discharged with an RE-3. You have to be 100% world-wide deployable at the drop of a hat in order to be on active duty.

So if you sent her over there to be with him while you were at basic (which like others have stated it is highly unlikely), what would he do with her if went on a training mission (I think the Army calls it "out in the field"?).

PS the answer your "husband will have her" doesn't fly. Who will watch her while he's at work? what about overnight duties and watches? What happens if they need him to go elsewhere with little or no notice?

yeah im understanding where ya'll comin from..
i didn't think it was this complicated..
i really would love to join and let her stay with her father but i guess the way you all are putting it i have to ask more questions and get a full understanding before jumping into this..
he'll have to ask his command like you all said.

well id love more advice. i appreciate all the help. thanks!