My soon-to-be fiancee will be leaving for boot camp in Rhode Island in September or October and will be there for 13 weeks. After that he will come to Athens, GA to complete Supply School to become a Supply Officer in the Navy. After 6 months in Athens, he doesnt know where he will be.
Im really scared about us doing this. I dont know what to expect or how to deal with the reality that we will be moving around alot and he could be gone alot. I feel so uncertain because I dont know where we will move after Athens or what to do when he leaves me for the first time.
Please please help me! I have been crying all night, and he is worried that I dont want to do this anymore.
One: it's OCS, not Boot camp. biggest difference is he will be yelled at by men in Smokey Bear hats( Marine Drill Instructors) instead of RDCs. second difference is he will do less running aorund like a crazy person doing push ups and more classroom unstruction.
and the third and best difference? he will actually have regular access to a phone and maybe if you are REALLY lucky, a computer. so an OC will have more contact with family back home that your average Recruit. I got three phone calls total( all the last week) when DH was at Boot Camp. I got one a week and about ten emails while he was at OCS.
There is another poster here, Akilamonique, whose DH is just about to go to or is already at his SUPPO training in Athens.
you just take one day at a time. don't even BEGIN to freak out about where he may end up until he gets about halfway through SUPPO school. it's pointless and stupid to worry yourself sick about what ifs and might bes.
Besides, as a DF, you have no rights and are not taken into consideration. when is the wedding scheduled for? after OCS, during SUPPO school? afterwards? depending on that answer, I would have different advice.
Honey you just need to calm yourself down. Fact is that you are just now getting into all this and I am going to warn you it's a long road. But don't worry. It actually gets a lot easier over time, you get use to it more or less. She's right though the fact that you get to talk to him is something you must treasure. But the thing about the Navy is that if your man gets deployed there deployment is usually about 1/2 the time of the Armys. My husbands in the Navy and he's only gone for 6 months which is great compared to some who are for over a year. You'll learn that you have good days and bad days and on every single day your thinking of them and keeping yourself as busy as possible. Just keep thinking about the day they come back and plan for that and until then just be proud of what your man is doing and be ready to VERY supportive because no matter how bad your day is his is usually worse and you'll be his rock. Good luck and remember to keep yourself calm because your no good to him if your freaking out. All you'll do is worry him and even though they like to know what's going on you don't wanna stress them out even more. Tomorrow will be a better day, I promise.
My wife is in basic right now, not OCS, but still AWAY. This is the first time she's been away from home in her whole life, or away from me since the day we met. I remember the big thing that helped me survive my trip to basic, and that was letters from loved ones. Now that my wife is there, I find the same to be true...writing her letters. I make sure to send one out every other day, no matter how complete it is, and any time I am just lost without her here, I write. When I am feeling lonely, I write. When I feel like I'll die if another day goes by without her, I write. It really helps to just tell her what's going on, how I am feeling, etc. And she REALLY appreciates getting a letter every few days! If he's going OCS, it'll be way easier on him, but letters from home will still be a great gift. There are also many spouses you could meet and spend time with. Most of the time people will be glad to hang out for coffee or a movie, since they are in the same boat. Basically, find the little things that make the time pass easier, and take everything just one day at a time. It seems like Kasey (my wife) just left, yet she'll be graduating in less than three weeks and I'll get to see her again for a couple liberty days, then she's off again to California until she's able to find us a place to move and I'll be back with her. If you keep your brain busy, everything else is a piece of cake!
