Help??

I wasn't raised in a military environment, so I got a crash course when my boyfriend, now fiance went off to BCT this past May and have had to find out a lot of stuff on my own; some things, without much luck. He is now currently attending AIT in Ft. Sam Houston, TX. He has been there since August 7th of this year ('09). We're planning on having our wedding in December while he has Christmas exodus. He won't be out of AIT until April of 2010 so he'll have been there for at least 8 months total. Here are my questions (and please, anything is helpful):

1) Since he's already been in AIT, will getting married allow me to move to Sam Houston (San Antonio) after I'm put on his orders since his schooling is longer than 20 weeks?

2) Can the dates of his exodus change or will they stay the same? (as of now, it's December 18th through the 1st and we're wanting to get married on the 19th)

3) After we are married and I am put on his orders, will that only mean for his duty station or will it also include his AIT?

4) Will he begin to accrue BAH after we are married if I'm not allowed to move with him?

5) What is honestly the best option? Trying to get up there around January, or waiting until April when he graduates and being moved to his duty station (as of right now is Ft. Riley, KS).


Any other information would be greatly appreciated. I know I have more questions, but they of course escape me right now. Thank you to all our servicemen and women for what you do and to the army spouses, for being strong and steadfast. Thank you.

I believe it will have to be 20 weeks of AIT after you get married, so they may or may not allow it. But be prepared to pay for the move yourself because he wasn't married when he reported to AIT.

He will have to pay his way home during Exodus they will not pay for that. If I was you I would push the wedding back a few days to be on the safe side.

He might not have his orders yet for when he finishes AIT so if you are put on his orders, it would be only to AIT. When he gets his orders to his first base you may or may not be on those depending on where he is going.

Yes he will get BAH w/dependents if you are not there or if you are there. It will be pro rated and backdated to the date you got married. It can take up to 45 days to go through especially after the holidays.

If there is a Reserve Center or base near you go to it during the Exodus to have your information entered into DEERS and get an ID. He has to be there and you will need your marriage certificate, birth certificate and SSN card.

For what to do it is up to you both. If you had a job or going to school I would say stay there, go through your things, get all paperwork taken care of, get a passport, etc... He can be busy with school and you can always go down there.

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Originally posted by rivers_girl89:
Help??



1) Since he's already been in AIT, will getting married allow me to move to Sam Houston (San Antonio) after I'm put on his orders since his schooling is longer than 20 weeks? No. you cannot be put on his orders as you will be considered an acquuired dependent. if you move to his AIT location it will be out of pocket and he may not get permission to live with you off base( he will NOT qualify for on base housing).

2) Can the dates of his exodus change or will they stay the same? (as of now, it's December 18th through the 1st and we're wanting to get married on the 19th) Dates can and will change. Planes get delayed or canceled. Yay for winter storms shutting down airports.

3) After we are married and I am put on his orders, will that only mean for his duty station or will it also include his AIT? any follow on orders he gets AFTER his current schooling. youwillnot be put on his orders for AIT as he already has reported there.

4) Will he begin to accrue BAH after we are married if I'm not allowed to move with him? Yes. it wil be base don where youlive untilhe gets accompaneid orders.

5) What is honestly the best option? Trying to get up there around January, or waiting until April when he graduates and being moved to his duty station (as of right now is Ft. Riley, KS). Stay right where you are until he finishes school and gets his duty station. they will NOT pay to move to you AIT and they will only pay to move to his duty station from where you are SUPPOSAED to be( your current location). Plus what if he gets unaccomapanied orders out of school?

That's what I thought. Well what I have had time to think about since I even wrote the post, was changing the date because it being that close to the day he comes here in December was just cutting it to the wire. I will have to talk to him about it, but I think we will change it to the 21st, a Monday evening and then he won't miss it for sure as long as his exodus is scheduled for him to leave on the 18th.

I actually took off from school to get all of this done so I won't be in school during the time we will be transitioning. I am still working however. You think it a good idea to continue working myself in effort to just make the extra money for a few months? I mean the idea of getting married and spending 2 weeks together and then not seeing each other for 4 months "bites" (for lack of better term) but I've already been gone from him for 7 months now and it's the Army, I should expect that at any time right ha-ha.

But during that time of waiting, yes I think that would be the perfect time to just get all of the things for my end of the paperwork in order. That just makes sense.

This was very helpful. Thank you very much for your help. Like I mentioned, this is so new for a 20 year old college student/full time worker ha.

mrsjvb:

I completely understand all of that. In question 5, you replied that he may get unaccompanied orders. Since we are getting married in December, will that four months not give them time to get me on his orders? I'm not quite sure on how that works out as of yet. What I had heard from his side is that I will be but again, he hasn't been able to give me much confirmed information (which I have learned very quickly is the norm for the army ha).

ALWAYS keep your job! Never quit your job just because you're getting married. Work until the last minute and you know for sure that you're going somewhere else. I mean, what's the point of quitting work when you're 2 months (minimum) away from doing anything....and since you're not in school anymore, what would you do with your time every single day for those 2 months?? That's 2 months of pay that could be set aside for a vacation down the road or a decent vehicle, family planning, house, etc...
Carry on with what you're doing now, wait for all this to come about and go with the flow. Things will likely change a few times before it's all said and done.

Unaccompanied orders could be anywhere. If he's off to Riley out of AIT, they give him unaccompanied orders, it will take time to get them amended--if they amend them. If they don't, you're moving on your dime--hence the comment about working and saving the cash for those 'unexpected' things.

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Originally posted by rivers_girl89:


I completely understand all of that. In question 5, you replied that he may get unaccompanied orders. Since we are getting married in December, will that four months not give them time to get me on his orders? I'm not quite sure on how that works out as of yet. What I had heard from his side is that I will be but again, he hasn't been able to give me much confirmed information (which I have learned very quickly is the norm for the army ha).

certain locations in the military no family members can be there. That is what is meant by unaccompanied orders. Korea is one for example, they are allowing dependents to be there in some areas, but not others. If he does get unaccompanied orders then it will be for around 1 year. He will get BAH for where you are and Family Separation.

Speaking of Family Sep if you are not with him at AIT because of orders then he will get that. It is $250 per month when gone longer than 30 days due to orders, school, deployment, etc...

bobbysangelwife: I hadn't planned on quitting until 2 weeks before the wedding itself but then found out some different information about his AIT that changed our original plans to have it in January. will most definitely keep working until I leave to be with him at his post.

navywifeinparadise: I did not know there was pay for separation. That's a good piece of info. As for "unaccompanied orders" that makes a lot more sense to me that there are areas that if he were stationed there, I would not be able to go along with him which is what I figured already.

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Originally posted by rivers_girl89:
mrsjvb:

I completely understand all of that. In question 5, you replied that he may get unaccompanied orders. Since we are getting married in December, will that four months not give them time to get me on his orders? I'm not quite sure on how that works out as of yet. What I had heard from his side is that I will be but again, he hasn't been able to give me much confirmed information (which I have learned very quickly is the norm for the army ha).

His being married has exactly zero impact. he can and will get sent somewhere where family members are not allowed, period.. Diegio Garcia, Crete, parts of Korea to name but a few.