I was just wondering if anyone delt with an unsupportive family when they enlisted and how did you deal with it?

I'm a woman, married with 2 little boys. I'm leaving Jan 19 for bootcamp. MY family is very supportive. My husband's family is not. They believe I should be at home cooking and cleaning and having more babies. Not to mention my Mother Inlaw is Queen of Conspiracy Theories and is convinced that our President is leading us to communism. My husband and I made the decision to join the Navy together. He would have done it but is unable to due to medical issues...so I'm doing what I need to do to create a good foundation for my family. I've always wanted to join the military but I was always apprehensive and had the same worries that most people have. We finally took the plunge and both my husband and I feel like we made the right choice. I know that not all people are going to agree with our decision, but my inlaws are flat out enraged.

Anyway...it's very stressful. Any advice on how to approach my them?

Don't bother. In laws are made to moved away from.
I'de go on but our decision years ago to move to another state was a right one from an independance standpoint. My wife will tell you moving away from family works to relieve stress.

Gerry has that one perfect. Who cares what in-laws and out-laws think? It's your family that you are providing for. If the two of you are happy with the decision then that's all that really matters.

the only perosn whose opinion matters is your spouse's. NOBODY else's.

Holy cow and I thought I had an evil mother in law. She has the same theory as yours about communism. To boot my mother in law moved just 6 blocks away in the same tiny town(pop 350)that we live in. SO everything I do gets back to the hubby. Whether good bad or indifferent. I have done the same thing as I have done for the last 15 years ignore her and move on. It is an issue of control and mine has many of the same view points as hers. Esp the baby thing.

Just remember it is not the middle ages anymore. WOmen are more independent and have to do what we have to do. I applaud your efforts for joining the Navy and good luck.

I could have taken a job in my hometown but my wife refused because my parents lived there (we're about 50 miles away). Truth be told she doesn't want to live near her folks either who live 75 miles away in the other direction. I concurr with my previous colleagues, if you're husband and your folks are on board then the rest doesn't matter.