Joined in Feb 09 shipping Nov 09. I have a girlfriend who has 2 kids. When I joined we had discussed getting married and me taking her to were ever I get stationed. My recruiter was ok with this he said just don't get pregnant. We got pregnant and now the number of my dependents goes up from 3 to 4, if we get married. I am told that at this point it would require a waiver and from what I here, that is almost impossible. My RINC officer said to hold off getting married until after boot camp and to tell them that we were engaged before I left (don't know why that matters other than sympathy). So, we are holding off until I graduate in Chicago and going to try and get married between me graduating and going to A-school.( also hoping the baby isn't born before then: due date is Jan 14 2010, which is about 9 weeks after I join) Don't know if I have the time but just hoping. I do not want to get there and have them tell me that if I follow through with getting married I will be kicked out or will be denied certain opportunities in the Military/Navy. So my questions are:
- Can this be done with out any issues? - Is what my rinc officer saying true?
Not clear as to how you come up with three dependents at present. I can see you having two if you are the father of the children in question. From your post that sounds like the case here. Normally your girlfriend would not be considered a dependent. Please clarify.
why would she not be considered a dependent. If we get married my recruiter said that she along with the 2 kids would be considered dependents and therefore put me at the max number of dependents. The children are not mine, just the one we are pregnant with. My RINC officer said that regardless they would all be listed as dependents once we are married.
Originally posted by RobotCommanderR: why would she not be considered a dependent. If we get married my recruiter said that she along with the 2 kids would be considered dependents.
If we get married is the key. Until that happens, the Navy don't recognize her.
you are DQ'd NOW as a single parent. You cannot enlist as a single parent..and yes the unborn fetus counts. you have to produce court documents stating you have no custody before you can enlist. if you live with the mother, no amount of paperwork will do any good. and you can't get the paperwork until afetr Junior is born.
and unelss oyu are going in as an E3 you will not be able to afford the instant family you get once oyu do get married.
and speaking of which: the chance sof actually being able to pull it off after PiR is about Nil. last year no less than 4 separate coupels tried to make it happen on the Spouses' Boards. ALL failed. mainly due to the time crunch.. you will not be released on Friday til after noon, minimum and you can't really get to the court house in Chicago in time to get the paperwork done let alone get the ceremony.
my question is though, am i going to get in trouble if we get married after im out of boot camp...whether that is in Chicago or later on in A school? Recruiter was notified that she was pregnant and just told me to marry her once i was done with boot camp. I do not think that recruiter notified anyone when i told him that g/f was pregnant.
You will need to inform MEPS of the pregnant girlfriend on your ship date. If not once the child is born you COULD be discharged for fraud. As for getting married you can and as long as you can afford to take care of the wife and three kids you will be okay. DO you really think you can afford that on an E1 salary? $1347 a month (minus taxes, etc of course).
