Okay, I know self injury (self mutilation whatever you want to call it) is a PDQ. I know why it's a PDQ (because of the unstability of their mental health.)
But here is my case: I never used cutting as a way to cope. Ever. But when I was 12 (I am 18 now)I had my first boyfriend and I thought I loved him and all that crap and I cut his name into my arm for the same reason people get tattoos of the person they love on themselves. SO STUPID, I KNOW but I am not a "cutter" and I have never been suicidal.
My question: When I'm at MEPS (if I get that far) listen to my explanation? ANY chance of getting a waiver?
Now here's my other question: what if I get removed by laser? is that like lying? because it doesn't matter that my dream is to enlist in the army, I will not lie.
Ya know, this made me think of something I hadn't thought of in years.
At my first assignment after recruit training, we had a guy on the cutter who had "Maria" carved into his arm. He was a fireman apprentice (E-2), but he had been a seaman recruit (E-1) when I reported aboard. A crazy guy, but everyone liked him. Anyway, he entered the Coast Guard with that cut into his arm.
I always thought self-mulitation was folks who cut on themselves on a regular basis. I'm curious to see what some of the resident medical folks have to say.
Not much to add to what has already been said. All you can do is submit your information to MEPS and talk about your scar with the doc and see what they have to say. Even if you get the laser treatment to remove the scar it will likely still leave the name or something behind. They have the same problem with tattoo removal, ink is gone but usually an outline of the tattoo remains.
peer pressure as an explanation will NOT help your case at all.
Trust me I went to an all girl Catholic private school. i was the scholarship student surrounded by the snobby rich girls who made the Heathers look like Pollyanna. I know ALL about wanting to look cool and fitting in.
all five Branches have no need to grant waivers at all. they do NOT need you. they also have plenty of anecdotal( and clinical) evidence that anyone who self mutilates has crappy coping mechanisms. they cannot afford people like that as the level of stress and pressure you will be under in the military is ridiculous
Originally posted by Mrsjvb: peer pressure as an explanation will NOT help your case at all.
they also have plenty of anecdotal( and clinical) evidence that anyone who self mutilates has crappy coping mechanisms. they cannot afford people like that as the level of stress and pressure you will be under in the military is ridiculous
I know. That's why I said it wasn't an excuse.
and I've never used the cutting as a coping mechanism, that's the thing. I went through a lot of crap in my life but I never thought using cutting to cope.
Why does everybody have to shoot his dreams down? I guarantee that you're just telling him those things just because you don't want anybody who you suspect may be mentally unfit for the Armed Forces. I know for a fact that MEPS Doctors don't give a **** about the scars as long as you don't come up with a reasonable excue about how you got them. Just say that you worked lanscaping for years and got scratched hundreds of times from trees, roses, and brush. Also, you can say you were carrying a board with nails and it slipped and cut your wrist. You just say you don't recall the exact situationsin which the cuts occurred. THIS WILL WORK!!!