Well, thought I would give an update. Doing alot better now, met some nice ladies and have spent some good time with them.. My son and I are starting to get a flow of how this is gonna work.

The ICE storm here has really hit us hard, been crazy here....

Other than that, doing pretty good, I have had a few dates, spending time with friends and still waiting to start looking for a house though, takes awhile to get my name off of everything so I can start my life...

I have to say the woman I have been seeing have helped me alot... Took me a few trys to figure this out, and I have to admit, the first couple of times was very hard, felt wrong, but after finding out my wife was cheating on me, it got alot easier...

Even had a few intimate dates, nothing serious, but sure felt good to be needed and wanted again... I can now say that after some very intense weeks of therapy, I have been told by the doc that she is not comfortable with my progress. She says I have pretty much controlled my anger to the point I have not been really mad since the divorce, even after finding out she cheated on me and moved the guy in right after I left...

I was mad, but with the help of my doc, she says I did great. I feel better, lost some weight, been spending time doing things. Even met a lady with some kids that are my kids age and have gotten along with them and even played with them. I cant have my kids all the time and they help me feel good.

The problem now is I have so many "friends" I am almost too busy.

Not that I mind, but I know that a few of them will soon want me to choose one. I kind of want to stick with just one myself, I like having fun and spending time with them, but I miss intimate times with just one lady...

I still have to work on my anger, to keep it in check, but I am good with it now. I have learned some good techniques to help and I have to say life is really good now. I miss my kids, but such is life, that too will get better and the cool thing is, my kids will be driving in about a year, and then they can hang out with me anytime they want too...

A little long, but wanted to just let everyone know that I am doing good, and to once again, thank you all for the much needed help and friendship...

Thanks.

Hey Ray,

Just wanted to say thanks for the advice on taking the anger and thinking of something funny. It really helped me help my wife get a lot of the stressful holiday stuff done without her doing it by herself. She thought I was nuts but she laughed the whole time. Christmas songs are kinda of silly and a good place to start if you are feeling angry. Just change a few words and whala! Instant crazy fun! I have a couple of favorites by now that make my wife cringe because they come on the radio some much but it beats beating the furniture eh? Just wanted to say thanks and Happy Holidays to you and your kids!

Ahhh man, that is cool, glad it helped, it sure does make a world of difference in the way you handle things..

I have to say, that since that, I have really enjoyed the women I have been around..

One has a Bi-Polar daughter, very hyper, more ups than downs, good, but can drive mom pretty crazy. I have been spending time with them..

Anyway went over to watch a movie with them, the kid starts getting to wild. So I ask the mom, can I try something, she is skeptical, but says okay.

So I tackle the little one, well, little, shes 14, 15 in a few weeks.... We end up wrestling around the floor for about 15 minutes, sitting on her, her tacking me, she gets on my back, hauls me down, just having a great time.

Afterwards, she falls asleep sitting next to me, mom on one side, kid on the other. She tells me that is the first time in a long time she has watched a movie without fighting her through it..

The little one just slept, curled up next to me. Man, that felt good to be needed and have somewhat of a family sitting again..

If felt good to just relax like that after the past few months of fighting the EX and being stressed out...

Anyway, glad it works, just keep it up, man your in for alot better days now.. Thats one less thing to worry about, and when we all have so much going on, anything that can help reduce stress is good.

Congrats to you.

As always, find the best physician you can find and follow his/her advice.