I would of missed the pain, But then I would have had to miss the dance.
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Hey I just noticed that the marine thread is always so active, why isn't there a thread for the ARMY!! Active or National Guard? lol We need to start one! So if anyone wants to do this lets do it today! lol... My husband is army and deployed... But reinlisted National Guard for a year. Ok lets do this! Deadra
If there already is one like this, we need to find it and keep it updated! lol... Dee
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Hi Sandra Advice, hmmm. In a way everyone deals with deployments differently. I guess the best thing to do is taking it one day at a time and trying to keep busy, the less time one has to ponder, the less one thinks up silly scenarios lol...
haha yeah I've got that much.. it's been hard but each time I get better. Right now he's about 3 hours away and we're switching driving back and forth on the weekends since i'm not moving down there until he gets back.. it was too much of a hassle. But hopefully everything will go fine without any problems..
Do you know how often we will get to communicate? I know thats a broad question, but say he had internet access and a phone, do they get down time at night like they do now?
Always depends on what he's doing. Last time mine usually had two "regular" weeks where he'd retreat to his room after the day, and one or two weeks where he'd have to sleep somewhere else. Not sure how it'll go this time around, I assume about the same, but that's because of what he's doing...Once he's in his room, he can use the time however he wants, whether he'll sleep or chat with me all night is his decision.
Calls, I guess it that always depends on where he is and how busy the phones get, just be prepared that if he calls and you're in the middle of talking, a voice might come on to tell you that the call will be terminated in 30 seconds (gawd how I hate that B.... lol), that was hard for me to get used to, even though in time you get used to it...
Just remember though, all this is solely my experience, might be completely different on your end
Well thanks for your input. I know that everything is completely unexpected and always different in every case, but I guess I'm just trying to prepare myself as best I can. Only time will tell. Thanks again tho.
You're quite welcome, feel free to holler at me when you have any more questions (or if you just wanna chat), just contact me through my profile and I can give you my email addy
How's everyone else here holding up? I just got over the one-week marker and noticed that I am still alive, my daughter is still alive, the earth is still revolving around the sun and life generally just seems to move on lol. Now to tackle the next 64 or so weeks...
In response to the question about Alaska. Your household goods will be shipped and as far as weight restrictions, that depends on rank. They will also ship your vehicle. I know that through AFAP (Army Family Action Plan) they were trying to get OCONUS areas to include 2 vehicles shipped. I am not sure whether that has been approved. I live on a small, remote post in Alaksa. As with everything there are good and bad points to living here. It is all up to you on how you deal with the change. There are alot of things to discover that you can't find anywhere else. I encourage you to make the most of it and take lots of pictures.
Originally posted by ji_242005: hi? everyone .. my husband is army too, beu he stay korea , what is bah? we get marrige 3month now I don't see that! so hard ..
BAH is basic allowance for housing. In Korea you would get OHA which is overseas housing allowance. If you got married in Korea, he has to go to finance and let them know so they pay your OHA.
welcome 242005, i'm in the same boat as you, though we got married august 18th. i've got OHA like recon was talking about. cuse my hubby's in south korea as well. ^_^
I see that the last thread was 12 April 2006...can we bring this back up cause we all need to support each other in this and we can make alot of good friends. Let's try to add to this and make it work. I don't get on everyday but possibly every other day I can manage to do so. HOOAH!!!!
boy do I feel silly sorry I thought that 12 April 2006 was the last entry...LOL. Guess what happens when you been alone too long from your loved one, my husband, who is in the box.
hello jhallswife! i'm a wee bit depressed, but i guess i'm... ok? ^_^;; mah hubby didn't have a good day yesterday. poo. then i didn't get to confort him cause he had to go to bed early, (my day is his night)
hi everybody. i'm new to this sight. my husbands on the down swing of his second deployment so we are getting close to the final countdown to him coming home. yay! i'm pretty sure i'm crazy but i found that walking, yoga, and crying when i need to(and no one can see me) helps.
if any one has advice or can point me to advice on making new friends at a new base(we are moving when he gets home) please feel free to let me know. i'm kinda shy about meeting new people but i know i need friends! thanks all
My husband just got activated. I come from a not so military family so its very new to me. Could use some advice and tips. Is it often that they can go for ages without contacting you?
16696982 it really just depends on where they are and what they are doing. whether they have internet etc.
with my hubbies 1st deployment he lived in a tent and had no internet and very little phone access. and he was very busy.
this deployment he has access to internet and phone, but it depends on what they're doin. i may get to talk to him online or phone everyday for a week and then go a couple with out hearing from him much. or the opposite the next month.
the best thing you can do is once you get his address start sending the mail. i send tons of cards letters and whatever else i can come up with to my man. it helps them have a piece of home and helps you by giving you something to do to take care of him.
cry when you need to, scream if you need to(just try not to let your hubby hear it lol) KEEP BUSY! it really does help to pass the time.
talk on the forums to the other spouses. it helps. keep asking questions. someone will help you figure it out.
hey i love screaming. really helps ya! makes me feel like im' trying to makes sure God hears me. XD
you can be mah battle buddy, and together we shall scream the stars away. (does that sound too romantic? lol j/k)
but like the same thing applies to me and my hubby like amie's does to hers. it changes alot, but since my hubby works for a TMC (kinda like a clinic) then i can get in touch a lot easier... but the time change makes it harder. -_-
hope to figure out what the dealio is then we can help ease whatever stress you may be under... though one thing i advise is.. i have a personal feelings towards not making public knowledge of things in marriages ^_^ so i dunno where joo stand in that, but that's just one thing i prefer to not advise on if at all possible. ^_^
but anything else, you can chat to me or anyone else about. i'm not extremely knowledgable... but i have had a military-like family and have been in this for about 2 years now, so i know a little bit, maybe enough to help you out some. ^_^
WECLOME BTW!! i'm sam! ^_^ but you can call me mrs.martinez.. or just "mrs" for short, cause that's what everyone else seems to be calling me on here. XD
Advice, hmmm. In a way everyone deals with deployments differently. I guess the best thing to do is taking it one day at a time and trying to keep busy, the less time one has to ponder, the less one thinks up silly scenarios lol...
I see that the last thread was 12 April 2006...can we bring this back up cause we all need to support each other in this and we can make alot of good friends. Let's try to add to this and make it work. I don't get on everyday but possibly every other day I can manage to do so. HOOAH!!!!
