My husband recently joined the AF and is still currently in tech school. We are expecting our first child next month and then are supposed to PCS a few days after her due date. We got stationed at Mountain Home AFB in Idaho. I have not head one good thing about that base. I feel like my life will officially over once we move there.

Everyone keeps telling me it is what I make it but with a new baby when am I going to be able to get out and be social? I had no intentions of being a SAHM but now it looks like I might have no choice since the base seems to be in the middle of no where. Everything we hoped to accomplish by my husband joining the military has not worked out. Not only did he get a horrible job, but I won't be able to go back to school as I planned bc there is no college near by. The closest to us is 45min in Bosie, and they still don't have the program I wanted to study.

I am so distraught and don't know what to do. I am now worried for the state I am going to be in when my baby come. My family will be 28hrs away and will never get to see there first grandchild. I feel like this was all the worst decision ever to go into the military. I need some positive advice...I am lost.

first do not listen to what others say about a place till you been there.....you could be in Minot, ND....where there is nothing but nothing......take this opportunity and make the most of it and no your life will not be over....thats just to negative....think of all the fresh potatoes you can get from there....lol...look i know its hard being new in the military and with a kid on the way, but you need to be strong for the baby and for your husband.....be positive and think of this as an extended vacation.....as for school there are online classes and then there is the education center on base...go talk to them they can help you out....as for your family...you can still call, email, snail-mail them.....so that is no worry.....and never say never....its a day and a half for rfamily to visit and i am sure they will come to see yall.....just remember to think positive and be supportive and it will get better.....look how close you are to Yellowstone, Canada, Washington and such....on his days off get in the car and drive to see the sites......be positive...

I'm looking for the silver lining here for you. There are two little towns between Mountain Home and Boise (Mayfield and Orchard) so possibly living there would mean a less than 30 minute drive into Boise. Since Boise is the state capitol, I would expect there to be quite a few state government type jobs there for you.

I don't know what you want to study but Boise State appears to have a wide variety of programs. If they don't offer what you want then you may want to look at Univ. of Phoenix or North Central Univ., both of which have online programs although NCU's is not as varied as UOP.

Since you will be at an AF base, you should have the ability to get hops for free to visit grandparents. It will be more difficult for them to come see you but it is certainly within reason for you to go visit. Commercial flights may actually be a little more difficult unless you are willing to make the drive down to Salt Lake City.

Speaking of Salt Lake City, you will be living in a winter sports wonderland. Some of the best skiing outside of Colorado will be just a short drive away. I know when we went to Montana they had daycare facilities so you could take the baby with you.

If you're currently living in a southern state, you will be able to tell people how much you enjoy the four season and seeing the leaves change colors.

It is true that the experience will be what you make of it. If you go in expecting to hate the place then you will. If you go in expecting to have a good time then you have a much better chance of that happening. For socialization, you will definitely want to get in touch with your FRG and, if you are religious, some churches in the area.

I hope this helps a little.

You cannot judge a place on what you hear from other people alone. Just because they hate it doesn't mean that it will be a disaster for you. Go with an open mind and it will be better.

There is lots of online colleges now that you can choose from. Coastline College actually has a program for military spouses where you can take 2 classes a semester for $59 each credit including books!! The semester is also on 8 weeks so it can be good and might be something you can do. Also see what colleges are offering on base they might have something. Boise is a decent size city so they do have options there for college. They might even offer programs on base as many local colleges do.

You can travel yourself and they can travel to see you. You can use Space A if your husband is with you (cannot without unless he is deployed longer than 120 days). You can set up times for them to be online and see the baby. To be frank it will not be the first, first grandchild not to be seen, there is lots out there. Ours included, we lived in Hawaii when he was born and dh's family lived in Florida! He didn't meet his paternal grandmother until he was 20 months old and his paternal grandfather until he was 2. Didn't cause any damage. I have lots of nieces and nephews that I didn't see for years because of moving, one nephew I didn't meet until he was 4. I have missed their graduations & weddings too. I still love them with all my heart. Both sides of our family are on Facebook and it is wonderful because we talk & see pictures that way. We have Skype as well so we can talk for free. It is very possible you can do it.

Geeze-how negative can you be-that area of Idaho is quiet nice-Boise is a wonderful City and 45 minutes is nothing in the way of drive time-i commuted 96 miles EACH way to work for three years. There are SEVERAL colleges in boise-not just one-and Boise state is a good school. There is decent commercial air serice into Boise-and your not terribly far from Salt Lake-and you might be surprised at how willing your parents or his will be to travel -especially to see the first grandbaby.
Life is what you make of it-if you decide that Mountain Home is the end of the world-it will be-if you decide its an important move in a successful career it will be-Your the only person who can make that determination.

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Life is what you make of it-if you decide that Mountain Home is the end of the world-it will be-if you decide its an important move in a successful career it will be-Your the only person who can make that determination.

Amen to that!

OP: Seriously, while Idaho may not be ideal for you personally--there ARE worse places to be placed for just a short period of your young life. You could be stuck in Nebraska, for example. I was there for 4 years--only for my husband. Was it my first choice?--hell no. But we dealt with the hand we were given, it was only for a short period of time (4 years), and now we're in a place that we really want to be.
There are not-so-desirable places to be and dream places. You'll just have to wait your turn like the rest I suppose. In the mean time--take the advice of these other folks. Make your determination based on YOUR observations, not someone else's.

OP you seem to be awefully self centered at the moment.

This isn't about what is good for YOU any longer its about what is good for your Family. You have a baby to take care of.

Is the prospect of a steady paycheck good for the family?

Is a guaranteed House, with Water, Electric and natural gas included, good for the family?

Is the ability to buy diapers, and put food on the table good for the family?

With the current economy and lack of jobs I would be thanking my lucky stars if I were you that your Husband took the risk of being deployed and away from you and a new baby, to accept the job as an Airman and Provide for you both.

Although with as ungrateful and spoiled as you are coming off here, he may be thanking his lucky stars for the chance to deploy.

You can get out and socialize. You will more than likely be living on base, look around, you will be surrounded by more women in your situation than you would be if you lived off base. Although socializing may be rather difficult once you have had your baby.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh and mean, But I have seen too many young wives with your attitude ruin what could have been a very good marriage.