My wife has been in Bmt for a little over 3 weeks. I have sent her a letter everyday. She can only send out letters on sundays. Well today i get a letter stating she has yet to recieve ALL but one letter from me.. I have her correct address. i print my shipping labels, so i know the is ZERO problem with the reading of the envelope. All the other women in her flight get letters almost daily.. what is the F-ing deal....

They do that from time to time. They hold on to the mail for whatever reason. My boyfriend just finished BCT and he wrote me a couple of weeks before he finished and said that they hadn't given them their mail in 3 days. Then when I saw him for his graduation he said that they would only give them their mail once a week. I think they do that as yet another way to completely break them down. I don't know, I think its stupid them not giving them their mail, but hey who am I.

Also I've been sending letters to my DH at WTC - the letters from the kids went thru but mine was sent back to me - I printed labels on all of them myself too so not sure what the deal is. That's military for you..

Just to play the "devil's advocate" here for a second......Training is for just that: training to be a soldier/Marine/Airman/sailor. This isn't camp, it's a job--for some the beginning of their career.
Mail is a privilege to receive. You'll find out very quickly that when one person screws up, everyone pays for it. It's to teach cohesion, teamwork, comradeship.
Some places just only do mail once a week. It helps people stay focused and on task, rather than being distracted by family/friends/etc.

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Originally posted by prdhusband:
My wife has been in Bmt for a little over 3 weeks. I have sent her a letter everyday.....what is the F-ing deal....

As you see from everyone else's posts, you're not in this alone. My advice is to keep writing her letters. And send them. They may not be getting to her as soon as you (and her) may want, but they will eventually give up the mail. Besides, if you write enough the letters will start to accumulate to the point of them having no choice but to either get a new mail room or give up the mail!! Haha!
But in all seriousness, keep writing. Even in the worst case scenario that she doesn't get the letters, you'll still have the peace of mind that you wrote her and was able to get your feelings & thoughts off of your chest.
Stay strong & keep the faith.

How frustrating!
Keep writing to her. Eventually, she'll get the letters. If you have saved them on your computer, then print them all and put them together in a book form or binder along with photographs for when she gets home. Make sure you date all of them, that way she knows you were thinking of her!

Also, send mental vibes over to her. Meditate each morning and at night. If you have kids, ask them to meditate with you, sending good vibes to Mommy. You'll be amazed at how much more connected you feel, and how it can really calm you!

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Originally posted by bobbysangelwife:
Just to play the "devil's advocate" here for a second......Training is for just that: training to be a soldier/Marine/Airman/sailor. This isn't camp, it's a job--for some the beginning of their career.
Mail is a privilege to receive. You'll find out very quickly that when one person screws up, everyone pays for it. It's to teach cohesion, teamwork, comradeship.
Some places just only do mail once a week. It helps people stay focused and on task, rather than being distracted by family/friends/etc.

Wow, I most certainly have to disagree! When you enter basic you leave everything you know and everyone you love. Getting mail is the only sense of "normalcy" and home. Mail is a huge deal for people in basic. The training people undergo is rigorous, getting letters from home gives them hope and encouragement. I don't know why you have the opinion that you do, or how you have formed this opinion, but you obviously have no idea what your talking about.

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I don't know why you have the opinion that you do, or how you have formed this opinion, but you obviously have no idea what your talking about.

Actually-she does-and she's right-mail and other comfort items are sometimes limited as motivation, punishment or to encourage unit coheision ( if you are miserable together you stick together kind of thing) Yes mail is important and a motivation-and a privledge. And limited access is good training for being in back water afghanistan where you get it once a month.

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Originally posted by orchidj5:

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I don't know why you have the opinion that you do, or how you have formed this opinion, but you obviously have no idea what your talking about.

Actually-she does-and she's right-mail and other comfort items are sometimes limited as motivation, punishment or to encourage unit coheision ( if you are miserable together you stick together kind of thing) Yes mail is important and a motivation-and a privledge. And limited access is good training for being in back water afghanistan where you get it once a month.

That's actually not the part I was talking about. I was referring to where she stated it was a distraction. That's where we disagree. She stated her opinion and I stated mine. I know all about basic, so you don't need to explain anything to me.

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Originally posted by prdhusband:
My wife has been in Bmt for a little over 3 weeks. I have sent her a letter everyday. She can only send out letters on sundays. Well today i get a letter stating she has yet to recieve ALL but one letter from me.. I have her correct address. i print my shipping labels, so i know the is ZERO problem with the reading of the envelope. All the other women in her flight get letters almost daily.. what is the F-ing deal....

I'm so sorry for what your going through. I'm not sure why it's not getting through but keep trying. Don't give up. I'll ask around and see if anyone else had a similar problem and get back to you.

I know that happened with my husbands mail a few times. Part of it could be the post office handling the mail as well. After he was already in AIT, I got some of the letters back in the mail as undeliverable. They had all the correct info on them, so I can only imagine they must of gotten lost somewhere. Keep in mind that the mail has to go through the post office, and then be sorted and given out to hundreds of soldiers. It could just be that.