I really have no idea where to post this, so if it is in the wrong place I am sorry.
Can someone in the Military get in trouble for DATING someone who is under 18 years of age? My Military friends have told me they can get in trouble if their CO's find out. I know you can get married under 18 with parents consent though.
If you are 16 or 17 and he is a few years older (ie 18, 19, 20, 21, 22 even) then it shouldn't be too much of a issue unless your family makes it an issue. If you are younger than 16, then he shouldn't be involved with you at all nor should you be.
It really depends upon how much under 18 and the age difference. Personally, I tried to stick with those that were at least 18, and preferably out of high school, when I was young and in the Navy. There is that issue of how someone in high school interacts with people as opposed to a servicemember who has been through boot camp and, in many cases, been in a combat area. At one point I did spend some time with a 16-year-old while I was in Italy although we weren't really dating, it was more just kind of hanging out in the town square with several other people. I was discharged shortly after that and returned to Texas and she went to Colorado to live with an aunt. I thought about seeing her when I went skiing but then realized that the under 18 thing could really get me in trouble.
Be safe and don't do it. If the parents did get involved one could be facing at the worst having to be a registered offender for life. Not worth it. I say don't cause anymore stress to a CO than necessary.This message has been edited. Last edited by: 22439422,
First it was her military friends telling her they can get introuble for dating someone under 18. THEN it changed to a few ladies arguing about it THEN it changed to a 16 year old arguing with her about it. funny how her story has changed 3 different times regarding who was telling/arguing about this info
i wanna know the same thing. im 16 and talking to a guy in the army he is 18 my family doesnt mind and they dont care but an old friend old mine that is ex army told me he couldnt date me bec i was 16. so im justing looking for a yes or no question before i get him in trouble. then end!
For just dating, no he won't get in trouble. However, anything beyond kissing and he's looking at 20-30 years in prison and a label of child molester with the requirement of having to register as a sex offender anywhere he lives for the rest of his life.
Personal opinion, high school "children" should not be dating "adults". A sophomore dating a senior is OK because they both are children living at home, regardless of age, and the senior likely is moving away the next year to go to college. A working adult, such as a military person, should not be trolling high schools for dates even if he is the same age as some of the children in the school.
hello. I have a question regarding this issue.I only hope someonewho knows can give me some information on this. My 14 year old daughteris being pursued by a 20 year old man,who has had sex with her. He claims to be in the reserves. Can anyone tell me how I can verify that he is actually in the service, and how I would go about reporting this to the commanding officer. I would appreciate any input from anyone on this matter thank you.
Dadindistress, I would not waste time trying to track down his unit and CO. I would report it to the police. You can bet that his unit, if he is in the Reserves, will find out about any legal action being taken against him!
Protect your daughter first and foremost from what appears to be a predatory situation.
Regardless of whether he is in the military in any shape, form or fashion, this is an issue for the police. The age of consent varies by state and all have a minimum age of 16. Some states will allow 14 or 15 if the other person is close in age. For example, the statute for the State of Iowa states:
A person commits sexual abuse in the third degree when the person performs a sex act under any of the following circumstances... 2(c) The other person is fourteen or fifteen years of age and any of the following are true...(4) The person is four or more years older than the other person.
This is one of the most liberal states but, even so, 14 and 20 are well outside the limits.