Josh and i have been married for 3 years... we have two wonderful children together... A 1 year old named Logan... and a 3 month old named Emma Grace... Well just two days ago i caught Josh Cheating on me AND found out that he has been sending 1000s of "Personal pictures" of myself to people and to websites... i am deeply hurt... but i have to stay strong for the children... I am staying with family in another State... but Josh has locked me out of our joint checking account AND will not help me with finding a doctor for the kids in this area... my 3month old is due for her vaccines...HELP!!! I'm not sure how to search for doctors that take tricare... i just talked to him yesterday and he said that he knows but wont tell me.... how should i handle all of this? I can't stay with my family forever (esp. with two kids).. but i have NO money...not even for food or diapers for the babies. Please help..thankyou
Finding a doctor is your responsibility he is under no obligation to do it.
Go to the Tricare website and put in the necessary information. You can then find a doctor in your area. If you have moved out of state then you may have to change Tricare areas. For example you moved from Florida to Washington so therefore went from Tricare South to TriWest. You can do that yourself.
He can't lock you out of a joint account, he can take the money he put in out of it if he wishes. you then need to find an income. You might want to file for separation in court and therefore he is obligated child support. The military will not help in that way you have to find a civilian lawyer.
First, for the doctor, like NW said, you can go to the tricare website and there should be a provider search function. Each region has their own website. You do need to figure out what region you are in, which you should be able to do by searching online.
If you are near a MTF, you can see about going there for the vaccinations. We were in the process of moving from a Navy Air Station to an AF base (we are AF) and I was able to take my kids to the MTF at an Army post near my ILs home when they needed care during the move.
Have you talked to the bank about the account or are you just unable to access it? I think it varies but it could very well be possible he is doing something or has even closed the acct (I just closed a joint account by myself for a MOPS group without any signatures from any of the other account holders, which I thought seemed odd but I guess its possible). If you have not talked to the bank, do so to see if you can access the money, if there is any left. Often what soon-to-be ex-spouses do is take money out of the accounts before someone else can, so there might not be any money.
Definitely see a lawyer about drawing up papers as soon as possible so you have arrangements for custody and child support and division of assets. The sooner the better. People can turn into real jerks. I have a friend whose 6 year marriage broke up over the summer and has signed divorce papers in the past month. She has 3 kids under 6 and her ex just came the other day and took their washer-dryer out of the house with no notice, leaving her with a ton of their kids laundry and a sick baby who was vomiting all over her last items of clean clothing. No matter that these are his kids too. You are seeing that yourself with the whole stupid "I know how to locate a dr for the kids but won't tell you". And I do disagree about him being under no obligation - they are his kids too and morally he should not act like a butt-hole if he knows how to get your children access to a dr.
