I guess it's not unheard of for deployed people to cheat, I must have been crazy to think that I was in this situation alone. However, I think these women, as I am, are feeling very unprotected and unsure, when our spouse are precisely people who are supposed to be protecting us, and the military is the model of protection. The more I read, the more it seems like I have very few rights, financially and otherwise. My spouse told me he had a gf when he deployed, and we decided to hold off on getting divorced for the financial benefits it would provide for me and me taking care of his finances in return. However, today he rescinded on all his promises, and asked for a divorce, and will no longer be providing the slightest financial support. I have been quiet to protect him, as he's cheated over 10 times in 2 years... I'm thinking of not being quiet any longer. I don't want to hurt his career, that's not my MO... I want what I stayed in the marriage for. Am I a money grubbing jerk? Maybe. But I couldn't have sex for an entire year because he cheated on me with 6 "people" in 3 months alone, and never ever not once, used a condom. My life was at stake. He gave me HPV, which leads to cervical cancer, which leads to death. he misrepresented himself to my friends and my family and most importantly, me. I continued to support him with packages and cards and letters from home despite my knowledge, as I thought, he's still serving my country, he still deserves comfort... boy am I the dumbest thing ever.

Not everyone that deploys cheats, if they are going to do it, then they will do it when they are at home as well. Just like you can cheat as well. Yes it does happen but not everywhere and with everyone.

You need to get ready for the divorce plain and simple. Set yourself up financially, stock away money, sell things you don't need anymore, cut down on groceries, gas, etc... anyway possible. If it means putting all your change into a cup and not using it then you do it.

be prepared to move home and it will be on your own dime if that is where you want to go. The military will not pay for it, unless you are overseas.

Him being an azz is not going to hurt his career in any way, shape or form by divorcing you.
I'm sorry for your heartache dear.....

I'd be doing as NWIP mentioned: squirrel away what you can, as much as you can. Start looking for a job so that you've got a way to support yourself in the aftermath as well.

Good luck to you.

You don't say how long you've been married but it may affect your ability to get part of his pension if he retires from the military. DON'T overlook this part. Get an excellent attorney skilled in military pensions (looking at those who advertise in the Army Times would be a start.
.... and if you don't have the length of time required, then let it be known to those in charge of him that he's a health menace. It's pretty humiliating to take an STD test when you've been waiting patiently for your "hero" to return.
I don't think you're a money-grubbing jerk. I understand your thoughts completely. You were betrayed by someone who walks around in a uniform promising "faithfulness to his country".
Do try to keep your emotions under control and proceed rationally. Revenge can take on a life of its own.

Because of the HPV I would definitely go after "damages", be it alimony or whatever is allowed in your state. Some states even have an "alienation of affection" law.

Say to yourself: "His interests are no longer mine. I will have to look out for myself, because he won't." and then go for what will help you survive.