I need to know what to tell a friend of mine what her rights are as far as going through this divorce she plans with her active duty Army husband. She is going through the ups and downs of just finding out about her husband cheating on her with another women a week before he was deployed overseas. He has told my friend that he loves this other woman, they have had sex, and he just bought this other woman a cell phone for her to stay in contact with him while overseas. My friend is really hurt by all this, but also very, very mad. She wants to make sure he doesn't screw her in the divorce. She plans on talking to a lawyer sometime soon, but my question is, Will they pull his TS/SCI clearance once they found out what is going on and that he commited adultery? I know that when I was in the Air Force back in the 1990's, they would pull your clearance until the dust settled, which could be a long time, or maybe just a few months... My friend does not want to hurt his career in the Army, he has only been in about a year... he is young, stupid and not thinking clearly, obviously. She just wants to move on with her life, but she also wants him to know that she is not someone he can just discard like they were not even in love and married... there are no children involved, thank goodness. What will happen to him once the divorce proceeding start? Will they pull his clearance and let him work somewhere else until everything is done, and then possibly re-enstate the clearance? will this go on his record? Will it hurt his chances for making rank in the future? Any answers/guidance would be GREATLY appreciated.
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Read this post (which one might think you already have since it is right in the vicinity of yours) and you will get all the answers about this you and she need.
The only thing not covered in that post is that she can't proceed with the divorce unless he wants to also until he comes back from deployment.
Basically, tell her to cut her losses and leave. Nothing is going to happen to him and she will get nothing out of the divorce as there are no children involved.
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The military has better things to do than pursue a man who cheated on his wife right now. His clearance has nothing to do with anything.
All she does is wait til he gets back from deployment to have him served with papers.
In the meantime, if she don't have a job--get one.
Start saving $$ to be able to support herself.
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Yea-unless he was sleeping with a North Korean, Russian or Chinese national and or transfered alot of money to one and she can PROVE it-i.e photos of them in the act-or bank records-hes not gonna loose his clearance-and unless said female was in his chain of command or the spouse of someone in his chain of command-guess what-the army DOESNT give a rats behind.
She needs to take care of herself cut her losses and move on.
thank you for responding to my post. It just sucks that he will get away with this.... When I was in the military, adultery was a BIG issue, especially if you had a clearance. It was beat into your head monthly what not to do and what could cause you to lose your clearance and cheating was on that list... I know that it goes on all the time in the military, I saw it all the time from both sides while I was in for my 10 years... Thanks again...
the only way even back then they would pull anything is with hard proof, buying things, talking, emails, individual pictures is NOT proof enough, you need evidence of them in the act to have anything really done, otherwise its like high school hi said she said stuff.
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