|Group Wrench Monkey|
Long story short, I may be getting a divorce in the next year. I am E4. Single E4 without custody of children are supposed to live in the barracks. I was wondering what my options are for being able to keep housing and BAH.
If forced to move into the barracks, how are my daughters supposed to visit? I will have them most holidays, winter break, spring break, and as long as I want in the summer. How are two little girls supposed to visit under those conditions? Rent a hotel room for 3 months??? Pray I can inconvience someone into shacking them up for me???
I've heard that if you've acquired a certain amount of household goods you can be allowed to live off-post. I have two couches, lazyboy chair, kitchen table, computer desk, queen size bed, 3 dressers, etc. How could I possibly fit all that in the barracks?
How long after the divorce is final do you have to move out? How long before they actually do find out?
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You can't keep housing unless you have custody of the children over 50% of the year. Most likely that will not be granted. You might be able to get approval to live off base in a rental, usually with E3's definitely not, but E4 with several years in you can. The CO just has to say yes. So with your things and the children visitation you might be able to get it approved quickly. It can also depend on how full barracks is. If they are full then definitely yes.
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I'd have to agree with NWIP on this too WiFi.
I'm thinking if you present your CO with your divorce decree and child custody arrangements, he'll approve you to live off post. I think you've been in for a bit though and that will help in the decision.
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We have a good friend here who is E4 and lives off post because of a simliar situation. She was able to get approved pretty easily. I think it just depends on the situation and the command.
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I 4th or 5th the "depends on the command". I have a neighbor who's an E-5 who they would NOT let live off post after his divorce. You won't know til you ask.
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Definately depends on the commmand-but i know several soldiers-male and female who are pay grade E-5 and lower and divorced who live on the economy-only one who lives in barrracks and that is his choice. For the most part commands here are willing to let soldiers live off post-unless they have a history of needing supervision.
best bet if talking to your chain about it, explain that your wanting to stay an active part in your childs life but can't living in the dorms, and that if needs be you will submitt to any kind of inspections etc they desire as often as they desire. and that you will if your preformance is lower then expemliry move back onto base.
i know af single e-4 (on most bases few exceptions) can live off base with 3 years in or if they have a golden record.
but don't mention that you need to live off base because of the amount ofthings you have (thos will end up in storage will be your answer or sell them)
i think as long as your present your case clearly and you on spot with your work etc there shouldnt be a reason to prevent you living within a set radius of the base (that may be a stipulation)
|Group Wrench Monkey|
Thanks for the replies. Hopefully, by some miracle, things end up working out. If not, at least there's hope my daughters will have a place to stay. I've never had an Article 15. I have been late to formation before, but only a few times in the 4.5 years I've been in. I'm a Corporal, not a SPecialist, so that may help a little. My CDR is a mom, so that should help, too. Again, thanks.
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