As soon as you are married, you should get several copies of the marriage certificate. He will need to take one with him to register you in DEERS and put you on his page 2. You will either need to be with him or have a power of attorney in order to get an ID (only can happen after you have been entered into DEERS). If he is going to Basic, then you will receive a package in the mail that has information and the necessary form to get an ID card at the closet base to you. Having several copies of the marriage certificate and birth certificates is a good idea. Because if one gets lost or you need to mail it in for something to be changed and you have only one then you can have problems. You will need one for changing your SSN, Driver's Licence, passport, etc...

You are automatically enrolled in Tricare Standard where you will have to co-pay. In order to register for Tricare Prime you can do it online through Tricare Prime Enrollment If you sign up before the 20th of each month then you can use it immediately. But if it is after the 20th then you must wait until the first of the following month (ie sign up Jan 20th, it is immediately, sign up Jan 22nd you won't be able to book an appointment until March 1st). For dental the program is United Concordia, there is a fee for each month that is either one ($11.05) dependent or a family ($27.63). The online information is here: UCCI/TDP

For moving if he is already stationed at a base before you are married, he will have to check with the Personal Propery or Transportation Office to find out if he is still eligble for a paid military move. Usually they are not if they have been there for a bit, then you are going to have to pay out of your own pocket to move your belongings to his current station.

For housing he can sign up for it as soon as you are married, as long as his orders are accompanied. If not then he is going to have to change them to be so. The wait time for each base is going to vary and what you qualify for. In some areas you can get in right away while it other places it can take up to 2 years before you can get in. If you are E6 and below and have no children or 1 child then you will only qualify for a 2 bedroom. If he is E7 then he qualifies for Sr Enlisted housing which is automatically 3 bedrooms. If you can't get into housing then an amount will be paid to your dh called BAH. It can take several months before it shows up into his pay, but it will be backdated to the date you were married. The BAH is split up between the pay on the 15th and the 1st.

For the rumor that the AD member's pay going up for having dependents it is yes and it is no. The only time it goes up is with the BAH, if they are eligble for COLA (all overseas locations and some CONUS), & Family Seperation (they have to be gone for longer than 30 days due to unaccompanied orders, TDY, or deployments, if you are chosing to live apart then you will not be eligble).

The only time the military will pay for a hotel while you are moving is if he is on orders for a PCS. If he is already there or he does not have accompanied orders then you will not get reimbursed for the hotel costs. Those will have to come out of the BAH he is getting for the area. Now if he has orders and they are accompanied then the military will pay for the move for both of your belongings as well as hotel accomodation along the way. Plus they will reimburse you for up to 10 days of TLE when he arrives at his new station. If it is an overseas move then first you will have to undergo an overseas screening, get command sponsorship, possible no-fee passport (if foreign country). When you go overseas the TLA is up to 60 days.

For your being a resident of the state that you are from, it ranges from state to state. Usually you are a resident of the state you are living in not where you come from. You are required to get a Driver's License from that state, file taxes, etc... Your AD spouse though is a resident in the state he/she enlisted in. For colleges they will usually allow you to get residency rates right away instead of waiting the necessary year or so. You will need to show a copy of the orders or have a letter from the command.

FOR Foreigners marrying a US AD member.

His/her job may require (usually does) permission from the Command to get married to a Foreign National. He/she will need to do this promptly and make sure any necessary paperwork is done beforehand.

A background check on you might be necessary as well because of his/her position in the military. Make sure you have you should have received a SSN card. If you are going to be applying AFTER you get married then you will not have one until your Residency is granted. Until then a Temporary # will be issued to you by them. Last year they started removing the SSNs from the military ID cards.

The Military will not help you get your Residency. A few years ago only 1 hospital in the US was cleared to do the medical check and that was Balboa Naval Hospital in San Diego. Not sure if it is still authorized or if any others have been granted permission. If not then you will have to pay for the medical exam out of pocket (Tricare will not cover it). You will need original copies of both of your birth certificates (if in foreign language, notarized translation will be necessary) and marriage certificate. It can take up to 2 years to go through. It is conditional Residency, after 2 years you can apply for Permanent Residency good for 10 years. You cannot apply for Citizenship until you have been married for 5 years in total.

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what do you mean, "accompanying orders"?

PSC orders are either accompanied or unaccompanied. Accompanied means the family members PSC with the military member to the new duty station and unaccompanied means the military member goes alone.

Has anyone heard of marriage counciling that the enlisted and the spouse have to go to before they get married?

most clergy require it.. military Chaplains absolutely do. faaaarrrr too many kids are jumping into marriage without being fully prepared for all aspects.

Ok so I am getting married in November. My fiance geets back from iraq in october, he was stationed in hawaii and then reenlisted and gets to stay there 3 more years. Problem is, since we're not married im not on his orders. He nevr got ay stuff moved over there, so do you think the army will move some of my stuff over there if he gets command sponsorship for me?

Since you will be considered an acquired dependent, no they will not move your stuff. They will move his stuff if he left any behind at any of his previous assignments or his home of record.

So if my fiance is stationed in Hawaii and we get married the military wont pay for me to head over there?? We were concerned about that. He was trying to figure out if it would be a better idea for us to get married before or after he was active. He will be leaving in December for Hawaii.

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Usually they are not if they have been there for a bit, then you are going to have to pay out of your own pocket to move your belongings to his current station.

He will be there for like 2 1/2 months before we get married.

If you are not married when he reports in then no the military will not pay for your ticket or your things to be shipped there. You will have to go through a medical and dental screening first and foremost. Unless you have a major issue then it shouldn't be a problem. He can get his things shipped there & include your things as well but only a Single AD member's weight allowance.

And that wont change when we get married? Cause i wont go there till we are married.

No because it is an OCONUS billet the military will not help you move there if he is single when he reports in.