As soon as you are married, you should get several copies of the marriage certificate. He will need to take one with him to register you in DEERS and put you in his file. You will either need to be with him or have a power of attorney in order to get an ID (only can happen after you have been entered into DEERS). If he is going to Basic, then you will receive a package in the mail that has information and the necessary form to get an ID card at the closet base to you. Having several copies of the marriage certificate and birth certificates is a good idea. Because if one gets lost or you need to mail it in for something to be changed and you have only one then you can have problems. You will need one for changing your SSN, Driver's Licence, passport, etc...

You are automatically enrolled in Tricare Standard where you will have to co-pay. In order to register for Tricare Prime you can do it online through Tricare Prime Enrollment If you sign up before the 20th of each month then you can use it immediately. But if it is after the 20th then you must wait until the first of the following month (ie sign up Jan 20th, it is immediately, sign up Jan 22nd you won't be able to book an appointment until March 1st).

For dental the program is now MetLife, there is a fee for each month that is either one. It is around $11 for 1 dependent, $31 for 2 dependents in Active Duty. There is coverage for Reserves/National Guards that you can be eligible for. The online information is here: TDP/MetLife It covers up to 50% of work done depending on paygrade, max of $1300 per year (May 1st to April 30th). Orthodontics are only covered for those under 23 and it is a maximum of $1750 total.

For moving if he is already stationed at a base before you are married, he will have to check with the Personal Propery or Transportation Office to find out if he is still eligble for a paid military move. Usually they are not if they have been there for a bit, then you are going to have to pay out of your own pocket to move your belongings to his current station.

For housing he can sign up for it as soon as you are married, as long as his orders are accompanied. If not then he is going to have to change them to be so. The wait time for each base is going to vary and what you qualify for. In some areas you can get in right away while it other places it can take up to 2 years before you can get in. If you are E6 and below and have no children or 1 child then you will only qualify for a 2 bedroom. If he is E7 then he qualifies for Sr Enlisted housing which is automatically 3 bedrooms. If you can't get into housing then an amount will be paid to your dh called BAH. It can take several months before it shows up into his pay, but it will be backdated to the date you were married. The BAH is split up between the pay on the 15th and the 1st. Also if the AD member is already assigned to that location and then gets married, he/she will be at the bottom of the housing list. That means being bumped everytime someone new comes to report, so the wait time can be long. You also have to take into consideration in housing you pay out all the BAH plus the cost of cable, internet and phone. Most stateside housing does not come with washer & dryer so you do have to consider that. When living out in town take into consideration the rent, utilities and the amount of gas/wear on vehicle to get to and from work. If you are not paying out above the BAH for everything then it is cheaper to live out in town. If you are paying more than $200 a month out of pocket it can be cheaper to live on base/post.

For the rumor that the AD member's pay going up for having dependents it is yes and it is no. The only time it goes up is with the BAH, if they are eligble for COLA (all overseas locations and some CONUS), & Family Seperation (they have to be gone for longer than 30 days due to unaccompanied orders, TDY, or deployments, if you are chosing to live apart then you will not be eligble).

The only time the military will pay for a hotel while you are moving is if he is on orders for a PCS. If he is already there or he does not have accompanied orders then you will not get reimbursed for the hotel costs. Those will have to come out of the BAH he is getting for the area. Now if he has orders and they are accompanied then the military will pay for the move for both of your belongings as well as hotel accommodation along the way. Plus they will reimburse you for up to 10 days of TLE when he arrives at his new station. If it is an overseas move then first you will have to undergo an overseas screening, get command sponsorship, possible no-fee passport (if foreign country). When you go overseas the TLA is up to 60 days.

For your being a resident of the state that you are from, it ranges from state to state. Usually you are a resident of the state you are living in not where you come from. You are required to get a Driver's License from that state, file taxes, etc... Your AD spouse though is a resident in the state he/she enlisted in. For colleges they will usually allow you to get residency rates right away instead of waiting the necessary year or so. You will need to show a copy of the orders or have a letter from the command.

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FOR Foreigners marrying a US AD member.

His/her job may require (usually does) permission from the Command to get married to a Foreign National. He/she will need to do this promptly and make sure any necessary paperwork is done beforehand.

A background check on you might be necessary as well because of his/her position in the military. Make sure you have you should have received a SSN card. If you are going to be applying AFTER you get married then you will not have one until your Residency is granted. Until then a Temporary # will be issued to you by them. Last year they started removing the SSNs from the military ID cards.

The Military will not help you get your Residency. A few years ago only 1 hospital in the US was cleared to do the medical check and that was Balboa Naval Hospital in San Diego. Not sure if it is still authorized or if any others have been granted permission. If not then you will have to pay for the medical exam out of pocket (Tricare will not cover it). You will need original copies of both of your birth certificates (if in foreign language, notarized translation will be necessary) and marriage certificate. It can take up to 2 years to go through. It is conditional Residency, after 2 years you can apply for Permanent Residency good for 10 years. You cannot apply for Citizenship until you have been married for 5 years in total.

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what do you mean, "accompanying orders"?

PSC orders are either accompanied or unaccompanied. Accompanied means the family members PSC with the military member to the new duty station and unaccompanied means the military member goes alone.

Has anyone heard of marriage counciling that the enlisted and the spouse have to go to before they get married?

most clergy require it.. military Chaplains absolutely do. faaaarrrr too many kids are jumping into marriage without being fully prepared for all aspects.

Ok so I am getting married in November. My fiance geets back from iraq in october, he was stationed in hawaii and then reenlisted and gets to stay there 3 more years. Problem is, since we're not married im not on his orders. He nevr got ay stuff moved over there, so do you think the army will move some of my stuff over there if he gets command sponsorship for me?

Since you will be considered an acquired dependent, no they will not move your stuff. They will move his stuff if he left any behind at any of his previous assignments or his home of record.

So if my fiance is stationed in Hawaii and we get married the military wont pay for me to head over there?? We were concerned about that. He was trying to figure out if it would be a better idea for us to get married before or after he was active. He will be leaving in December for Hawaii.

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Usually they are not if they have been there for a bit, then you are going to have to pay out of your own pocket to move your belongings to his current station.

He will be there for like 2 1/2 months before we get married.

If you are not married when he reports in then no the military will not pay for your ticket or your things to be shipped there. You will have to go through a medical and dental screening first and foremost. Unless you have a major issue then it shouldn't be a problem. He can get his things shipped there & include your things as well but only a Single AD member's weight allowance.

And that wont change when we get married? Cause i wont go there till we are married.

No because it is an OCONUS billet the military will not help you move there if he is single when he reports in.

I need some major help. My name is Melina and I just got married 2-16-10 to Kyle no last names for PERSEC . He is active duty Army and he left for korea on the 22nd. I have no idea what I'm doing/should be doing. ANYONE that can help me, please please please contact me! My email is no email addresses for PERSEC

Thank you!

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I need some major help. My name is Melina and I just got married 2-16-10 to Kyle no last names for PERSEC . He is active duty Army and he left for korea on the 22nd. I have no idea what I'm doing/should be doing. ANYONE that can help me, please please please contact me! My email is no email addresses for PERSEC

Thank you!

This is a super vague question. Are you talking about just in terms of getting your insurance & ID? Are you wanting to see if he can get his orders changed/get command sponsorship for you to go to Korea? What are you looking for?

Yes, my insurance and ID. Since he's in Korea, what can I do at home in Ohio? I'm just not even sure what I'm supposed to be doing!

Right now, nothing. Did he leave before he could get a copy of your certified marriage certificate? If not, then the only thing that you can do is go get a copy of it when it's ready (you can call the county clerk and ask when it'll be available, some require a minimum of 4-6 weeks) and mail it to your husband. He will then turn it in and can send you back a piece of paper to go get your ID. If he already has the certificate, then you just wait to hear from him, he'll send you what you need to go get what you need. Advise him that he'll want to look into getting a Power of Attorney for you as well, some ID places require the form he'll send you AND the POA to get your ID.

Okay! Thank you! And one more question. I have a daughter but she isn't my new husbands. Is he able to put her on tricare as his dependent without any legal rights over her? I don't think her father would let me do that. If so, does my husband have to do all that paper work or do I? I'm assuming he does. Cause, well he has to do alot.

does she live with you and your new husband? full time?