I need so much support right now, and I don't think my friends, all dating or married to cilivians, understand. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We stuck it out through his deployment to Iraq. A couple week before he was due to come back, the marine corps decided to transfer him to another state. After waiting for almost a year, I only got to see him for 2 weeks before he was gone again. We have been in this long distance relationship for more than a year already. I thought "Could this get worse" Yes, it really could. He's been actively serving for almost 6 years now, so with about 6 months left, I was starting to bring out the cake to celebrate our long awaited reunion. They transferred him to a different unit 2 weeks ago and said "hey you might be getting deployed next month." I kept my hopes up. I tried to believe that this couldn't be happening all over again while we're 10,000 miles apart.
Yesterday, they let him know that he is being sent to Afghanistan for 6 months then extended for another 6, because the people who previously had his job have all been killed...he's replacing them. With the possibility of death so close at hand, I tried to stay strong. I tried to support him and let him know that its going to be okay. We have a month left together, so I wanted to fly to spend the last month together. He won't let me. He's choosing to push me away. How can I convince him to let me go visit? I understand supporting him, but I need to see him too. I have waited for 2 years in this long-distance fiasco. Am I selfish for wanting that? We're going to spend 3 anniversaries in a row apart. We're going to be apart again for our birthdays. I just want to visit. He won't even listen to me, because he let me know that he hates love right now. What do I do? Tell me I'm not the only one going through this. Tell me someone else has to deal with this too.
