My husband is currently serving in Korea and my son and I were granted command sponsorship and have just arrived two months ago. Prior to arriving in Korea, my husband and I have had a rough marriage where he would drink excessively and abuse me. That cooled down after awhile and I put faith in him that he changed when he "promised" me it would be different once I got here. It hasn't. I've only been in Korea for two months and I'm regretting coming here with our 4 year old. His abuse has gotten worse. He chokes me, puts me in his "combative moves", slams me up against the wall, literally kicks me when I'm down......get the picture? I don't know anyone here besides my husband and I don't think I can take much more of the abuse. I have no where to go, I don't have a phone. I guess my questions are as follows:

What would happen to my husband if I reported him to a military official about his abuse?
How long would a divorce take?
Is there any assistance that my son and I could get as far as getting back to the states (no way in heck can I afford one plane ticket let alone two).
Any advice, suggestions...anything would be helpful. Please.

If he did it once, he will do it again and again until he gets help. Even then it can still occur. Promising you he would change and not getting help will not solve the problem at all. Go the Base Chaplain and they should be able to help you. Have you been to the hospital about the injuries you have received? Take photos of the bruising or anything else. Go to the command as well if necessary. If it is determined that you need to go home and they file for a EROD then you will get the flight home paid for. There is also a Military Space A flight option for you, where you fly no charge or under $30 as well. For that though you would need a command sponsorship letter.

One thing you will need as well is a letter authorizing you to leave the country with the child.

I agree with everything NWIP said.

Also, do you really want your child growing up thinking this is acceptable behavior?

Start with the Chaplain and go from there.

Your husband has shown that the abusive behavior will continue and if anything it will most likely escalate.



Mom

the on base Family Services Center has a family Advocacy Team. go DIRECTLY there. you have a choice to make a complaint that is anonymous although be aware that if your case worker deems your life(or the child's) to be in danger, all bets are off and they will name names and bring the command in on this.

Thank you all so much for your advice. This information helps me out incredibly and now I have a place to start to seek help.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.