I'm engaged to a Coastie, he's just been added to the AMT "A" School list. What I'm wondering is can the wives live in the city where their husbands "A" School is located?

You can live in the same town even if you're not married. I imagine what you want to know is will the Coast Guard pay for you to live in the same town. If you are married a certain amount of time before your fiancé receives orders to "A" school (I believe it has to be longer than 30 days in advance of the EDO (effective date of orders), but a YN would know for sure) then you and you husband are entitled to BAH for the "A" school area (this assumes that the length of the "A" school is long enough for him to receive PCS orders). I do not believe the same rules apply if he goes to school as a temporary assignment. There isn't any regulation that I know of that would prohibit you from living in the same location as your husband, but your Coastie can check with his SPO to find out how your specific situation will be handled...

The best option is to transfer to air station Elizabeth City. Other than that, A school is tad and the guard won't pay for dependents to go tad.

If you get married then your husband will receive BAH for the area he does his Airman program and will be sent to "A" school TAD. If you are not married then he will be sent to "A" school with PCS orders. There is nothing saying you can't go to E-city with him but the CG will not pay to move you (as a wife). Also, when he graduates "A" school the CG will only pay the amount to move you from the station where the Airman program was completed to the new duty station if you do deceide to go to E-city. Depending on the amount of BAH he is recieving and distance you would have to move it may or may not be worth it. I recommend that you get married and move in with a family member for the four months and bank the BAH. Also with the money you save you can visit more often.

Bless you for sticking with him. I'm working on situation #11 (in less than three years) in which a spouse or significant other has decided, at the last minute, to bail out on a PCS move. The member is crushed and begging for more time to try to work things out prior to transfer. While I very much wish to assist in keeping them together, I have to wonder "how long will it last at the next unit"? If the skittish spouse doesn't want to leave mommy or daddy now, what's to stop him/her from running back to the apron strings after a week at the new unit?

I would have your fiancee double check with his Yeoman (or look into it himself - check Chapter 4 of the Personnel Manual and/or the Training & Education Manual). It used to be that for "A" schools longer than 20 weeks the spouse (and children, if any) could go with the member. I don't know how this applies to the aviation schools since sometimes, the service member goes back to the air station that they left. (That is not always the case.) If the 20 week rule still applies, the CG does pay for it. Once again, check this before you take it to the bank. As for the date of marriage and how it affects transfer entitlements, it is simple. Entitlements are based on the "effective date of orders". That is figured out by taking the report date, subtracting the number of travel days, and adding one. For example, if the report date is 10 July and the member got 8 travel days, you subtract 8 from 10 to get 2, add one to get 3, so 3 July is the effective date of orders.

Aside from that, I have to agree with Dave1960. If you have the opportunity to go with your husband, I would do that. You may not get to see a whole lot of him, but at least you'll be together and you'll start to get used to being on your own when he's away. I believe this can make your marriage stronger. The military moves their people where they are needed, and if that happens to coincide with where you want to go, then great! I wish you the best of luck and you can tell your future that there are some good Yeoman out there, and just as many crappy ones. If he looks up policy himself then he will know where he stands and can challenge a Yeoman who doesn't know what he/she is talking about. I hope this helps!