Hello,

My nephew was suddenly home from the Army and we think he may not have had an honorable discharge.

Of course he does not tell us this but his behavior is strange. He has applied for many jobs that require a background check and he never seems to get any type of work, even before there were no jobs, like a couple of years ago.

He also never shows any photos of his time in the Army, and he actually never speaks of the army.

We know that he was sent home on the "first thing smoking" (his words) from Germany and arrived in the wee hours of the morning, and we also know that he seems not to be covered by Veterans hospitalization/insurance.

We have caught him in several lies which he tries to cover.

We are tired of referring him to positions (he is over 40)and he never seems to get the jobs or he has other excuses, and would like to know if there is any way we can find out what type of discharge he received?

Just seems strange that he does not show any photos or speak of his adventures or time in the service. We do know he was in the service at one point because we had an address for him in Germany which seemed to be military.

We are not rying to punish him or anything we just want to know how we can help him, and we definately know we are not getting the truth.

Thanks to all who may respond.

Could be AWOL - best thing to do is ask him straight up -

My short answer would be, let him know of your concerns and willingness to be available to help him if you could. Then I would let it go. At his age he is old enough to make his own decisions.

I have found out that it is almost impossible to help a person who will not be truthful with you.

As to him showing photos and talking about "his adventures." It could be he had adventures that he would rather not share. That happens with a lot of GIs coming home.

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Just seems strange that he does not show any photos or speak of his adventures or time in the service. We do know he was in the service at one point because we had an address for him in Germany which seemed to be military.

We are not rying to punish him or anything we just want to know how we can help him, and we definately know we are not getting the truth.

UTC... call/visit your local recruiter and tell them what suspicions you have... it sounds like what Grey Wolf said - AWOL... quit guessing about what might be, find the answer... if he is AWOL then they need to know his whereabouts. If he is Dishonorably discharged then he is SOL for many jobs and Federal jobs in particular. No need to lose anymore sleep over this person. If it is an issue to you then FIND the answer. A recruiter may be best to get you started in the right direction.