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My husband BM1 Seawright age 31 who was currently stationed at Lake Worth Inlet committed suicide on 06/25/2008. He served the USCG for 10 years and 5 months.
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Really sorry for your loss.
Kevin Couture, SK1 |
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MY heart goes out to you and your family at a time like this. Very sorry for your loss.
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Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for reaching out to us. You are still, and always will be, part of our Coast Guard family.
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I'm very sorry for your loss. My sister committed suicide 3 years ago. I realize a sister is different than a husband but I still wonder WHY, why didn't she get help?
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I know the reasons why, where and how( more details then I really should have been told). He left three letters, laid out his dress blues, ribbons, polished his shoes and belt. I just wish he could have found peace in a different way. I listen to my voice mails that haven't deleted themselves yet, read my text messages and look at photos and my heart just knows things will never never be the same.
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A loss is a loss and the pain hurts in different ways and a lot no matter who it is I think. Im sorry for the loss of your sister, does it get easier? |
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Mrs Seawright
First, I am sorry for your loss. There is nothing more painfull than the loss of a loved one. I noticed your post this morning in the Soapbox, and I moved it here. I hope you dont mind. I did so because many Coasties dont roam that forum. Most do roam here. I can relate to what you are going though, and I can tell you that it does eventually get better. There will be times you may blame yourself, and thats normal. You will get angry at times, and thats normal as well. Some days, you may find yourself holding a picture, and remembering how things were. You will remember the great times you had, but know you will carry him everywhere in your heart. I lost a son in 1999, and I went through all of what I described above. I blamed myself for 5 years. I would cry alone alot because I was embarrassed to let anyone see me. I still to this day cant talk about it because it makes me cry, like I am doing now as I write this. I blamed god for alot of it, but I have since come to realize there wasnt anything I could have done. For the first few years, I would find myself sitting at his grave, and it made me feel good to talk to him. There were times that inside I felt he answered. That was the roughest thing I have ever been through in my life. It made me a better person though. I realized after that, that I had been taking some things for granted. I spent time with my kids when I had time. Now, I make time, regardless of what ever else is going on. I never leave for work, and they never go to bed without hearing me tell them I love them. I tell them that as many times a day as I can. I stopped making a big deal out of the smaller things in life, and took the time to notice everything. I found that spilled milk wasnt such a disaster, crayon on the wall can be removed, and everyday, I will spend with my kids and wife like there is no tomorrow. You will find that you will get through this, it will just take time. Tony |
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Very eloquent, Tony. Thank you for those words from the heart. Being humbled is the one human emotion that gives the most hope for all mankind, IMHO. So much is taken for granted, & I know I need to be reminded from time to time about how fortunate I truly am. That was very thoguhtful and generous of you.
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I do not mind that you relocated my post I didn't even know if it would get to stay I just wanted to be heard & get support by all of the men and women who have been such a large part of our life even though they didn't know us, all CG is family. I know that we all have a break point and that it is just a matter if we reach it and are able to rebound or not- he just was not able. I have always valued life and tried to find a positive in every negative... but this one is well hard. Its not just me who lost a husband it is also our 10 year old who lost her daddy and I think that is what breaks my heart the most. I think I hurt more than normal because I hurt for her and I. Its hard to watch your child hug & kiss daddy bye while crying telling him that she loves him and that things will never be the same..She didn't leave his side the entire wake (5 hours)Shes right things will never be the same. |
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Ms Seawright, thank you for sharing with us. Although most of us probably did not know your husband personally, he is family. And you and your daughter will always be part of that family. We are concerned about you and are praying for you.
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Mrs. Seawright,
I went to Coxswain "C" school with Clint some years back. He and I were assigned to the same 41 UTB. We used to talk and hang out quite a bit during our month in Yorktown. I remember that we were both from Louisiana, he was from Shreveport and I am from Lafayette. I thought Clint was a great guy and I am very sorry to hear about your loss. |
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Ms Seawright - I am sure you are feeling completely lost and overwhelmed right now. Each and every one of us desperately wants to help take some portion of the pain you are feeling. Unfortunately, as you are well aware, we simply can't. Instead we can, each of us, reach out to you and console you and your family the best way we know how.
While you very likely feel very alone, you are NOT. Suicide was the 11th leading cause of death in America in 2004. Unfortunately suicide in the Coast Guard is all too common an event. Most Coasties who commit suicide are STELLAR HUMAN BEINGS! They are DEVOTED coasties, DEVOTED family members, and DEVOTED humans. They are often the most DRIVEN members of the crew, are HIGH PERFORMERS all around, and are often the GO-TO members of the crew. What drives them, and probably your husband, to suicide I don't know...but I wish we could figure out. The pain that is left behind a suicide is staggering. I lost my mother to suicide when I was 12. For nearly 20 years I thought suicide was probably the most selfish thing a person could do. But then I went through some tough times and very nearly committed suicide myself. When I was a survivor of my mother's suicide I though it was selfish, now that I have been to the brink of suicide I can say it was not intended to be a selfish act. For me, it was simply I could not see any future. It was empty. I share all of this with the intention of helping you carry through and survive this toughest of times. We are all with you in spirit and soul. May God Bless You, Sooth your Soul, and Provide You with the Strength You Will Need. RIP boats. |
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Now OldArmyLOVE -------------------  Founding Member ------------------- |
Our hearts and prayers go out to you, the entire family and I’m his sure many friends.
12 years ago our precious 25 year old daughter-in-law took her own life. I had known her since she was 9 years old. I loved her and still love her to the max. Like you, we knew her thought process that caused her to reach that hopeless point and yet we will never fully comprehend it. We do know that time makes it easier to deal with and we have found strength in being available to others who have suffered this loss. Our son has found and married this great lady who given him back his life and us a new daughter. She is not a replacement or supplement she just prefect. Again, our prayers are with you. |
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Ms. Seawright, I don't post here often, I'm a visitor from another site. Just wanted to drop in and express my condolences and to let you know that you have a large CG family (vet, retired and AD) behind you. Best wishes for you and your daughter.
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I still can't believe it.
Clint was a huge help to me when I showed up to my unit as a brandy new 3rd with all cutter and no small boat experience a few years ago. He made the transition very easy, and I learned tons from him. He always asked how I was doing, both at home, at work, and if I needed help on anything. He was a wealth of knowledge and experience, and he loved to share that with junior members. Clint was one hell of a guy, and a good friend. |
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Ms. Seawright:
Both mine and my Families most heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. I never met your husband but I am positive he is a good man and will not be forgotten soon by anyone he served with or knew. I don’t know if anything said here helps you through this and I can only hope you find some solace reading what is said here or by others your husband knew. |
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Ms. Seawright,
I know your grief must be overwehlming at this time but if it's any small comfort you aren't alone. Deepest condolences from my family to yours. |
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