Does this woman sound selfish or what? It's one thing to have a drop in libido due to extenuating circumstances. However it's another thing to celebrate and justify living in a sexless marriage! Sounds as if she's rallying other women in similar situations and embracing the notion

Carrie Jones hasn't had sex with her husband Hal, a City banker, for the past four years. Nor does she want to. Sex is something she can no longer summon the effort to endure - with the man she married, at least.

She admits she stays in her sexless relationship for the sake of her children, aged nine and 11, and will remain celibate until the day they are grown up and she feels able to leave. At which point, she confesses, she will probably abandon her husband and begin a sexual odyssey to find the satisfaction that eludes her.

An unusual case? A sorry lack of libido? She insists not. "If I thought I was unique in my sexual disappointment I'd probably be suicidal," muses Carrie, 45, a publishing executive, who lives in North London with Hal and their children.

"I remember the first time my girlfriends and I admitted that we all felt the same about married sex as parents: we couldn't be bothered with it and felt guilty for not wanting to sleep with our husbands. It was a revelation. I remember thinking: 'Thank God! It's not just me!'

Now I believe there are thousands of other married women who would love to admit sex isn't all it's cracked up to be. But, if the constant cliches in women's magazines and chick-lit are to believed, we should all be enjoying prowess in the boardroom and swooning every night in the bedroom.

"It's the great taboo that no one dares admit - that sex is often a let-down."

So convinced is Carrie that her experience of sex in marriage - initially pleasant, dwindling to nothing at all after having children - is a universal one that she has just written a book, under an assumed name, highlighting the disappointment of her sex life.

"It's a sort of 'Frigid Jones' Diary'," she laughs, though she is not joking. "I want to break the taboo. Sex frequently isn't the chandelier-swinging experience that certain authors would have us believe is every woman's rite of passage.

"For me, the sense of being special to Hal faded away just as it did with previous boyfriends. I became obsessed with agony columns, poring over letters talking of boring marriages and the temptation of affairs and willing just one agony aunt to advise someone to run off with a lover.

"Of course, they never did. It was always: 'Go and work at your marriage.' But I didn't want to work on mine. I wanted someone to say: 'Actually, perhaps nothing will make you want to sleep with your husband again,' which is how I feel.

"I've made my choice. For now I'm caught up in marriage's net, bound up with responsibilities to my children. My interest in sex with the person I was supposed to be closest to has died. I could leave but for now I'll wait because of the desolation it would wreak on my family.

"I want to maintain the family unit because it makes other things possible, like doing things together with the children. But one day, when they are older and I can think about my own needs again, I may leave and start all over again.

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http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article...0248&in_page_id=1879

Tell the single guys to save them from dreadful mistakes.

Perhaps she needs a little , along with a little . Or maybe she's into .

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Originally posted by climb4fun:
Perhaps she needs a little , along with a little . Or maybe she's into .

Nope. Beach is a fairly common beach.

Her husband has absolutely no spine or self-esteem if he doesn't divorce this obnoxious harpy.

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Originally posted by shades_of_grey:
Imo, her husband has absolutely no spine if he doesn't divorce this obnoxious harpy.

Yep. No need for him to put up with it.


Problem is, some wives put out just enough to keep the poor schlub thinking that it might get better.

Hal's gotta have a girlfriend..or three

I hear menopause can DRAMATICALLY lower your libido, but from the looks of it, she looks to be in her early 40's. They've had a sexless marriage for 4yrs, so she was probably in her 30's.

SSG-That may be true, but at least that type of woman is trying to please her man.

BTW-you guys read fast..

She sounds like the University Proffesor lady that was teaching the
womens class that even sex in marriage is a violation of the female.

She was telling the class that even consentual sex is rape of the
female. Her stand was that penatration of male was wrong.

This was in the news about 10 or so years ago. As far as I know the
lady is still teaching as even then she had tenure.

Sounds like another Tuber versus Goober.

WELL BOUGHT, SEX AND MARRIAGE ARE ALIVE AND WELL WITH ME AND MY WIFE. AND WE'VE BEEN MARRIED A LOOOOOOOONG TIME. SO, I GUESS FOR SOME IT'S WORK. FOR OTHERS, IT'S......WELL......WHAT IT'S SUPPOSE TO BE.

P.S.- I WOULD NEVER CHEAT ON MY WIFE NEITHER. HOW PEOPLE DO AND SLEEP WELL IS BEYOND ME. BUT THAT'S FOR ANOTHER THREAD I BET YOU'LL START ONE DAY.

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Some folks are just like that, and to tell them to get out of the marriage is really none of our business.

I suspect sooner or later one or the other will get tired of the situation and leave.

She sounds selfish to me. I bet she would be screaming betrayal from the roof tops if she found out he was having an affair.

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Originally posted by PhoenixDark:
Some folks are just like that, and to tell them to get out of the marriage is really none of our business.

I suspect sooner or later one or the other will get tired of the situation and leave.

Dude, she says she is hanging on 'till the kids are old enough then she is gonna go bang some jerk who never did a thing for her.
You have a new relationship...well, newISH I guess.How long would you stay with a woman who had told you as much?

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Originally posted by rm444:
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Originally posted by nemesis1960:
Hal's gotta have a girlfriend..or three

I agree totally. He's probably just staying in it for the kids as well but he's gotta "work late" alot. After all us guys have needs and four years. Please a tour in Iraq was way longer than I ever wanted to go. I'd have bounce along time ago.

I don't know how many of ya have bothered to follow the link to the original article, but ya really should. There's a big ol fat, (pun intended), picture of her that further exposes this woman for the ridiculous, delusional biiiiiiiiotch that she is.

I mean, just look at her. What kind of "sexual odyssey" does this chinless, wrinkled porker think is waiting out there for her? I can only speak for myself, but personally, I wouldn't fack that woman with a stolen d1ck.

She needs to shut her gaping pie-hole, be thankful for the husband that she has and start treating him like a proper wife. Either that or have the integrity to divorce him and move on, if that's what she really wants.

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Originally posted by shades_of_grey:
I don't know how many of ya have bothered to follow the link to the original article, but ya really should. There's a big ol fat, (pun intended), picture of her that further exposes this woman for the ridiculous, delusional biiiiiiiiotch that she is.

I mean, just look at her. What kind of "sexual odyssey" does this chinless, wrinkled porker think is waiting out there for her? I can only speak for myself, but personally, I wouldn't fack that woman with a stolen d1ck.

She needs to shut her gaping pie-hole, be thankful for the husband that she has and start treating him like a proper wife. Either that or have the integrity to divorce him and move on, if that's what she really wants.

I don't think she's chinless, shades. If she looks down you'll see that she has more chins than the Hong Kong Yellow Pages.

She aint winning any beauty contests, but I've sure seen worse.
Dump the cow Hal, and run like the wind!

No comment.

Maybe Hal is sticking around to help her spend the money from the book profits. Then he can dump her.

Perhaps the relationship died out long ago because she brought nothing to it nor gives anything in return. Personally, I think a strong, loving relationship is one where instead of expecting all the give and take from the other ....you both feel that the other one gives much more than you do.

What is she thinking? Having her picture shown in the article!!!! Someone will show the article to her kids.

Good topic, Bought. Thanks for posting it.

Maybe Hal is grateful she doesn't want sex anymore that way he doesn't have to 'perform' his husbandly duties... YUCK!!!

Two things that struck me about her claims:

1. She's currently 45 and not leaving her husband till the kids are grown (assume 18). Her youngest is nine, so she will be 53 once she divorces. She then assumes she will be able to begin "a sexual odyssey"... she has a better chance of being taken hostage or struck by lightning than finding anyone who would f#(k her now, let alone at 53.

2. She may not have had sex for four years, but I doubt Hal has been waiting for her to come around for that long. She can't cut him off - she doesn't know who all he's getting it from.

Hal kick this shrew to the curb, quick!

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Originally posted by The_Bonesaw:
Two things that struck me about her claims:

1. She's currently 45 and not leaving her husband till the kids are grown (assume 18). Her youngest is nine, so she will be 53 once she divorces. She then assumes she will be able to begin "a sexual odyssey"... she has a better chance of being taken hostage or struck by lightning than finding anyone who would f#(k her now, let alone at 53.

Wrong! All she has to do is come to the dance at our local VFW and those old guys, armed with Viagra, will be happy to service her.

Y'all know what I'm hearing in a lot of comments? That you'll only love your spouses so long as they put out!

What does that say about the depth of your commitment, let alone love for that person as he/she is?

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Originally posted by stillkit:

Wrong! All she has to do is come to the dance at our local VFW and those old guys, armed with Viagra, will be happy to service her.

Well there's an image I'll be trying to claw out of my brain for the rest of my life.

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Originally posted by stillkit:
Y'all know what I'm hearing in a lot of comments? That you'll only love your spouses so long as they put out!

What does that say about the depth of your commitment, let alone love for that person as he/she is?

How many have spouses that are bragging to the whole world that they have denied their significant other sex for 4 years?

No one's mentioned the fabulous lesson that she's teaching her kids about marriage. They may not be directly told that their parents no longer do the horizontal polka, but the effect on the relationship must be rather obvious. Great job with parenting- to teach your kids that keeping up appearances is better than developing a reality that looks good because it is good.