my husband and i have been together 11 years and have four children....we have only been married for a year and a half and he is saying that he wants a divorce...he said it is becuase of the fights that we have and the money is his....I am only working part time so that obviously will not cover the expenses for four children....i think that he is cheating on me and I don't know what my rights are as a military spouse....Is there someone i can contact and what if this other person is in the military as well. please help
As a military spouse, your husband needs to provide support for his family. If you are still married and he is not providing support, you can do a complaint at the Inspector General (IG) office on post for non-support. The IG will contact the Commander or First Sergeant and will require him to provide you support for your family. If he fails to provide support, you can inform the IG, and the Commander can initate UCMJ for disobeying an order. If he is cheating and you know he is dating another military person, the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) can be used to punish the Soldier for fraternalization or Adultery. The fact that he is not helping you economically cannot prove that he is cheating. For fraternalization and adultery charges, you need to have solid and visible evidence. Most of the time, witnesses can help prove this, but most of the time, they have to be cut in the act of doing something to prove they are dating or have a romantic relationship. Before claiming you have a case, look for any love letters, the phone bill or try to figure out how he spend his money. You need to gather all the facts before making assumptions. If you have enough evidence to point another Soldier in the same unit, you may have enough evidence to charge him for adultery or fraternalization. Adultery (dating somebody else while being married) and Fraternalization (favoring a person in the change of command; dating one of his subordinates) can be punished under UCMJ. I will advise you to look at other reasons why he is acting angry and he is always fighting with you. He may be stressed out with work. Being Angry is one of the symptoms of Post Traumatic Disorders found in Soldiers that deploy a lot. Soldiers do not realize they are acting different as a result of traumas that they faced when deployed. I also suggest your patience with him and try to find out why he is acting like that before judging him. You need to go to the clinic and find information about PTSD and talk to a counselor to find information on how you can help him to stop acting like that. Obviously, he is blaming the problem on you and you are blaming the problem on him. In reality, the problem may be the traumas of past deployments or a medical condition. You need to find the cause of the problem to find the right solution. Please let me know if this answer you question.
