Hi all I am writing tonight because in 2 days we are having a homecoming for my husbands troops, for those of you who are not aware, my husband passed away in Iraq while on tour from heart complications.
I am going to the homecoming to show my support and to have some kind of closure. I am so nervous though.what if I start crying and cant stop and cause a seen?
I really dont want to be the focus of a homecoming.I want it to be a wonderful,happy day. My girlfriend is so happy that she starts to cry and all she can say is I am so happy that hes coming home.
My daughter wants to go and she is only 5 but she understands that daddy will not be coming off that bus.
I sometimes think that Tom really derserved to have a wonderful homecoming and I know hes is looking down on us and watching.
i wll be meeting many soldiers who helped tom when he was sick. that I am really looking forward to.
what I am not looking forward to is having to go home without my husband by my side. Iloved him and I suppose I always will love him.
So I hope I am doing the right thing as far as attending the home coming. My friends think I am not .That I am reopening wounds. Not really my wounds have not closed yet.
thanks for your time in reading such a wordy thread.
Kate

edited 'troops' in title.

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Kate,

Do what your heart tells you to do.
I know it will be hard but if you feel that you need to do it and want to do it...go ahead!
You are one of the kind.(((HUGS)))

Bless your sweet heart hon! Make me tear up reading that.....you have a strength that not many people have, I admire and respect that.
I have to say, that if it were me--I'd be going too. It's bittersweet really, and wonderful that your Lexi understands and wants to go too.

Kate,

You are a strong person and it is a wonderful thing you are doing. As BAW said, you have the strength that many people don't have. I'm sure they would be very happy to see you there.

Your post really touched my heart. You and Lexi are always in my thoughts.

{{Hugs}}

I know it will be hard, but I think you need to go. For you.
My husband told me after his last deployment that if he didnt come home he wanted me to be at homecoming to see his guys come home.

I think if your gut tells you you should go, you should go!

I'm not sure about Lexi- it might be harder for her, being so young, to see the other kids with their dads and rationalize that--but you are her Mom and you know her best, go with what your heart tells you on that one.

So what if you cry! Others will be crying, too and if they don't understand, poo on them.

Is there a friend who could go with you, someone who is not attached to this group, who could be your support through this? Perhaps this person could be a help in case Lexi needs to step away or you need a shoulder to cry on? I hope so.

I'll be thinking of you, as always, but especially this weekend. You are amazing!

(((Kate)))

I think that its great that you are going to support them and this is great closure for you.
I also think for ((Lexi))..this is a wonderful thing.

She is a very smart girl and she understands how important this is.

Tom is looking down and he is so proud of you!



You are an amazing lady Kate...
Thank you!

Kate I think that you are an amazingly strong woman. During your time of sorrow you are doing so much to comfort others. The spirit of who you are is remarkable.

I think that attending the homecoming is a great idea.

I truly admire you.

It's a possibility that some of those troops will need to see YOU! They have also suffered a loss they will carry with them forever. Much needed hugs and encouragement are in order for everyone. I know you are thankful that the rest of his troops made it back safe and sound. God Bless each and every one of you!

Kate,

just thinking of you, hope you're holding up ok. i don't know what it's like to see those guys, but i hope it helps in some way.

I know that the troop homecoming was Sunday. My thoughts will be with you all week, as I think there will be some hard times in the next few days and weeks. For me it was like the real loss began - once the date of when he should have come home passed by. And it was harder for the children as they think all kinds of strange and magical ideas that they have to finally realize are not going to happen to make Daddy come back.

Lots of hugs out to you.

How are you doing today?

Kate I hope you are feeling good today.(((HUGS)))

I thought about you this weekend Kate. {{HUGS}}

I hope that the day went as well as could have been expected. I don't think that you are opening any old wounds, I think that it may help soothe them some. Of course I can't be for sure on that. Just wishing really. *hugs* to you hon. and your daughter of course.

jen

Kate, I knew that day was coming, and so soon after the 4 month anniversary. I hope you went and that you were able to find some comfort in the care of Tom's "bud's". If you decided you couldn't go at the last minute it would have been just as good a decision. As the others said, you have to go with your heart, soul and gut. What you can deal with today would make you "lose it" tomorrow.

Prayers for you and Lexi always.

Update.

Kate let me know that she went to the home coming and she's doing okay.

Thank you Glenda for the update. I was getting worried about her.

I'm sure that had to take a lot out of her. Give her our best wishes, please!

I'll do that.