I am sorry to intrude but I had a few questions involving my BF (Recently made ineligible to reenlist) and now severed.

Have there been many cases of people who have spent a long time in active duty (11 years the case here) becoming; Depressed, Feeling lost, Perhaps “afraid” of being unable to “fit in” in the civilian world?

I think my BF is showing all of these in one range or another. But getting him to see its natural and CAN be fixed, is another issue.

Any of you up to sharing your story or lending a little advice? I think this could really help him! And maybe others. Anyone in the Groton CT Naval base area who has also just joined civil ranks could all meet if they wanted to. Going it alone with the wild economy we have been seeing lately is enough to scare anyone, but going it with back-up makes it a lot easier.

Email me and I’ll be sure he gets it. Maybe soon I’ll get he himself to start talking too.

Thank you in advance
D.Jardstam

D.JARDSTAM

You have to excuse my sarcasm, but I'm not sure where you're getting this "Expertise" in Psyche. When depression can be fixed, it will become a non-issue. I don't see that happening.

Secondly, where do you get off by saying "Maybe soon, I'll be able to get him to start talking too" (1) Why would he use you, and what could you provide him that a professional could not? Ever thought that if you took on the role of a pro, you just might hurt him more? (or) May be that you reduce what remaining pride he has from that of Man, Provider, Partner....to Dependent?

If you're not a SHRINK, don't play one. Call the VAMC near you and schedule an appointment on his behalf. If there are problems, the VA (nearly all) have excellent Mental Health Providers. He will be in good hands. From that point on, Life issues should begin to normalcy.
Eres Tu!
Freddy

I am not getting nore do I have any more "Expertese" than any person with limited collegeing in this area. What I AM looking for are counts of the SAME feelings in this forum to EDUCATE myself and prove to my BF, someone I DO care for, That he is NOT alone in feeling this way. Perhaps you missed my saying that getting him to SEE or TALK to anyone would be a trick. As I stated in my post in softer words.

" But getting him to see its natural and CAN be fixed, is another issue."



If I have come accrost like a know it all in your view I am sorry. But unless this pertains to you as well, or you have real advice on the posted subject at hand, Kindly refrain from "flaming"

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