my husband is deployed and i just had my twins, i feel like i'm going to go insane soon. All they do it cry and as soon as i get one calmed down and sleepin the other decides to start screaming too. Its a never ending battle, they are my first so the cryin i'm not used to and i can't just let them cry like everyone tells me. Any one have any suggestions on how i can keep my insanity?? Thanks for listening

Hi Mrs. Gray,

I have twins too . I so understand what you are feeling, however, my husband wasn't deployed. He simply chose to work lots of overtime hours

Are your twins preemies? Mine had specific health issues, due to being born 7 weeks early. My body wouldn't hold them any longer, but since their birth weight was 5 lbs, they were sent right home with me.

I know it is rough, nothing like having one baby, but more like having 5, especially if they have special developmental needs.

I remember being glued to the house the first 3 months and the bed was never made because I crawled back in, every two hours, 24 hours a day. Never got a full nights sleep the entire first year,

Do you have any family, or a trusted loving neighbor that will help you out? My relief came from a nurse across the street. She'd take one baby home with her for a couple hrs, to give me some measure of help.

Try and relax and enjoy them as much as you possibly can. A little crying is normal. I remember bringing both of mine to bed with me and they cuddled across me for body warmth and closeness. It did help with any fussiness.

My twins are grown now, and I promise you, what they say is true ~ enjoy them now, because they will grow up before you realize it. It may not seem like it now, but you will soon realize it to be true.

Just love on them, cater to what they need, ask for help. These babies need you, don't be shy, if you don't have a close neighbor or family, ask your doctor for a list of referrals. How about Mommy and Me groups? There must be different organizations that will be able to help with the femands you have right now. Call the hospital for referrals?

You need help, so you can spend a little time with yourself, recoup and regroup for the babies.

If you are really feeling that much over the edge, please don't hesitate to find help. It's out there. This is a temporary phase. You will soon be enjoying these two little people more than you can imagine!

My blessings are a boy and a girl. What miracles do you have?

Just hang in there, don't worry too much about the house right now. You will need to first take care of yourself, if you are to have the endurance for these precious babies. Be sure to try and get enough sleep and eat nutritiously. Then, in turn you will be able to withstand the demands of your new dependents. They need and depend on you more than anything right now.

CONGRATULATIONS on your new family additions!

Some of the wives from the command could help out - check with the spouse support group.

Also, check for social services like Jewish Family Services or Catholic Family Services. You do not have to be of that faith and many of their employees are not of that faith. But, they can help.

Check for a local support group for parents of multiples. They can be a great resource for you and help as well.

Can any of your family come out a few weeks at a time to help out - either your family or your husband's?

I did not have twins but our son was preemie and wanted to eat every hour. Honestly. The docs told me to start him on very watered down cereal at 6 weeks. Also at 6 weeks I went to stay with my parents for about 2 weeks and my mom helped me stretch his feedings to 3-4 hours apart and that was absolute heaven! He had colic really bad too so the crying was not fun either.

If you want to contact me directly at sgtmom@gmail.com and let me know where you are I can look into some resources for you. Hang in there!!!!



Sgt Mom

I think they define colic as crying for more than 3 hours at a time, 3 days a week, for 3 weeks. If you're formula feeding, you might talk to your doctor about different kinds. They make some that are supposed to be clinically proven to reduce gas and fussiness. My son cried (literally) 18-20 hours a day for the first 3 weeks. They thought he might have a dairy allergy, so I cut all dairy out of my diet and on day 3 of no dairy it was like I had a different child. He was happy, and he slept, which meant that I could sleep too!
If you think that your babies are crying "more than normal" or if they are really hard to soothe, keep a journal of how often they eat, sleep, pee, poop, and cry. You might be able to figure out if they're crying because they're hungry or tired, or if (like my son) they cry more after they eat. I think your pediatrician is a great resource, but sometimes you have to be persistent. If you think there is a possibility you're suffering with postpartum depression, DO NOT hesitate to talk to your doctor.
Another thing worth trying are the mylicon drops. They have the actual mylicon brand, but baby gas-x or little tummies both have the same medicine and are cheaper.
My son is almost 7 months old now, and he's an amazing little guy. The time really does fly. I don't remember much of the first couple months of his life, when he had dairy issues and then colic and I never slept. I can't imagine going through it with two. Just remember, this too shall pass.