Now I'm sure I'm not the first and I won't be the last mother to feel this way. My husband is away doing OSUT at Fort Benning. He called me the other day to say "your moving with me to Fort Stewart when I graduate," nice. Not that I'm not excited I am but our original plans were for our son and myself to relocate in April not Nov. sigh, my son is only eight months and he's driving me insane. He's at the age where he wants to be held all the time, he wont stop screaming till I pick him up. This is our first child and everyone keeps telling me how spoiled he is; but I can't for the life of me understand why or how it happened I let him cry it out but sometimes he'll cry for an hour. My husband's been away since July, and I find myself screaming into a pillow sometimes. It's so over whelming. I know all you can do is your best, and I've been reading the posts which tell you how you need to learn to depend only on yourself. This is only the begining I get that but wow this is hard...
But you do have to get "ME" time otherwise you will go insane. Even it is a movie, coffee, pedi/mani, going to the library, something to get out of the house and some adult conversation.
He can tell that you are anxious and knows something is happening most likely so he will be clingy. We moved when our ds was 8 months and it was something similar. Find out what is offered on base and off there, like MOPS, Toddler Time, storytime, etc... so it can help you out.
I know but the thing is my family lives in NJ and we live in NY so it's just me and Ethan(my son). I'm sure he can feel my stress, but it's not like I can just leave hime with someone. By the time he's ready for bed so am I. We haven't even moved yet and I feel isolated.
Check local churches for a "Mom's Morning Out" type thing. If you don't get some relief it only gets worse. You need a break and you need some "me time" as NWIP said.
Second best to that is MOPS - only second best b/c they provide childcare but you attend the meeting - its not so you can go out somewhere. But you will meet people and form a valuable support network if you join MOPS.
MOMS clubs are bring your kids along, but again you could meet people to form a support network with, and if the religious aspect of MOPS makes you uncomfortable, its an alternative.
