My husband flies out tonight for his deployment to Afghanistan. He's been back at Fort Bragg for a few days now after his week long leave, and I'm doing better than I was over the weekend, but I'm still already counting down the days till he comes back for R&R ^_^

Hey All! It's getting down to the wire, and my boyfriend is leaving for Fort Dix tomorrow, coming home for four days in December, and then off to Kuwait, and finally Iraq. This is going to be our first deployment together and to top things off, I'm going to be leaving February 11th, for Fort Leonard Wood for OSUT Training for Military Police. This is going to be a stressful deployment, but I guess I can only make it as stressful as I want it to be, right? I'm looking for any advice and words of wisdom from spouses/girlfriends/fiances who have already been through a deployment or are going through one right now. I feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster right now. Thank you!

well i havent already been through one...Im currently going through our first also. It's most def the hardest thing I have ever done, but honestly getting on here and knowing that there are so many strong women that have already gone through the same thing we are going through and they didn't die! It helps out a lot. It will be rough at first until you get used to it. Its been 2 weeks today since hes left and I feel like its been 2 months. I hope I get used to it soon. We will be okay though girl! Think of it this way...This deployment(s) can either make or break you. I know Im shooting for the make part

Hey! Your reply def. cheered me up quite a bit. Today was the official "send-off" of their unit. It was a sad, sad morning. I was standing outside with his family while they were in formation and his mother broke down. As soon as I saw that I started to cry as well. I did good today though, not to many tears. I wanted to be strong for him. I know the last thing he would want to see is me crying. He's down in Fort Dixx for 45 days then will be coming home for 4 days in Dec. I know this time will fly by, but once he's off to Iraq it's going to be a stressful 10 months. It's his first deployment so it's all new to him as well. As I sit here writing this, I just miss him so much already. If I had a penney for all the people that have told us this is going to make or break us I would be rich LOL. But it is the truth. Especially since I'll be leaving for my basic training and I'm not going to get to write to him as often as I am being a civilian right now. Good luck to you and your honey! You can email me through here if you'd like. I'd like to stay in touch!

He hasn't been gone for not even 10 hours and I already want tocrawl in my bed and just sleep. I don't think it's hit me yet that he is gone for awhile...

I know exactly how you feel. My husband is currently on the plane, lol. Last time I talked to him on the phone was when he was leaving Maine to cross the ocean. I tried not to cry on the phone with him and be strong, but he's better at this than I am, this is his third...my first and it's way harder than I thought it would be. I had my little pity party this weekend and thought I was all better, but it's harder than I ever thought it would be. I miss him more than anything. Props to you for going through basic...I really wanted to and was planning on enlisting this January, but then we found out I was pregnant so now that can't happen and sadly he's gonna miss the entire pregnancy and the birth of our first. I think that is what bothers me the most, but I'm working on being strong for him and for myself.

Congratulations on being pregnant! I can't even begin to imagine what it's like, that he's going to miss the 9 months and the birth. How is your family and his family? I hope you have a good support system at home! And I'm sure you do. I'm taking for granted the fact that I can still talk to Steven while he is stateside. Literally just now I recieved a text from him saying his stay at Fort Dix, N.J. is going to be 56 days now instead of the 45 days he was told. Ohhh... the joys of the military for you! His last day is Dec. 26th, he misses Christmas by one day. Ughhh... for people who keep saying to me that I can do this and us military spouses and gf's can be strong... ya know it's a lot harder than it looks! LOL. This is my first official day of us being away from eachother... not fun at all! Well, I hope you have a good day today girl! I'll be back on later checking the blog... I'm surprised not more females or males with deployed loved ones are on this discussion.

DH hasn't left yet, but I do have a date. He's going IA and I am the Ombudsman, so I get to call myself to see how I am doing for the next X number of months

Yes I know the joys of the military, lol. The army changed his dates so many times in the past 6 months, lol. Yeah today is the first time I've had to go 24 hours w/o any communication from him. I'm used to at least a text message, but I have no idea when he'll get anywhere w/ internet access and he can no longer use his cell. I totally get you this is harder than it looks! And I do have a good support system, my family was a little worried when it first happened, cause it def. wasn't planned, but they've climbed on the bandwagon now and his family is just amazing about it. I'm sorry yours is gonna miss Christmas by only one day! Thats a bummer.

Hey all! Hope everyone is doing good! Ugh, I'm starting to get sick which isin't fun...never is. The weather is changing out here in good ole' New England. It went from fall to winter in about two days, lol. Besides being sick, today is starting to be a good day! The sun is out which is a plus, minus the cold. I talked to Steve last night...he had to go through medical all day yesterday. They gave him the anthrax vaccine and they also gave him small pox. He said he had to get poked about 15 times with the needle for small pox...and now he has a fever and no appetite. Odd, how they pretty much induced him with small pox. But he says he's doing ok besides that. How is everyone else doing?!! I'm off to do some work...

Hey all... hope everyone had a good weekend and had a chance to talk to their hubbies! Yesterday was a downer day for me... I kind of freaked out on Steve, but we got through it together... ehh... still feeling a little out of place with the deployment. Don't think I will ever get used to the idea of him leaving for so long... it is what it is I guess...

My weekend was pretty good. I went back to my hometown to welcome back a friend who just got back from AIT, he's not sure how long he's gonna be home till they ship him out to Iraq. I got to talk to my husband last Thursday for a few minutes, but I have no idea where he is, he couldn't tell me. I haven't had any communication w/ him since Saturday (before that we were sending emails and such) so I'm not sure where he is. I gotta say since January we have kinda gotten used to having a long distance relationship but we talked on the phone every day, so I can deal with him being gone, but the whole non communication thing is what is really getting me. I just want any word from him, even if it was just a email that said Hi, lol. Oh well, I guess I'll get used to this too. Hope you all are doing ok and have a good rest of the week!

Hi everyone! I'm Lauren and am new to the boards. In September 2007, my boyfriend left for 15 months in Iraq; it's his third tour but the first since we met. He came home last April for R&R, and we got engaged! He will finally come home next month! Although the past 14 months have been very hard and stressful, our relationship has grown so much stronger. Hang in there, and keep your head up... I'm happy to share my experiences thus far.

Hi
New here. My husband and I married during AIT June of 2008. He had to graduate early due to me ending up in the hospital with a kidney infection. We moved to our first duty station Fort Campbell TN and he leaves for Afghanistan next month. Sooo..we really have not had a lot of time to spend together. I have been through 3 deployments with my first husband who passed away in 2006. I just want to say I know what all of you are and will be going through! it is so hard at first but, after a few months it does get better. It does help to have communication! thank goodness for that. When my first husband went, he could only call once a week. My girls will take it harder, they just love him so much. Hopefully they will allow webcams?
Take care everyone
Jamie

Hey to a couple of the newbies on here! I haven't posted in awhile...the Holiday's are coming around the corner and my work is getting overwhelming, not to mention I just picked up a second job as well! I'm glad to see that everyone is doing ok thus far! Today has been kind of a bummer...haven't had much of a chance to talk to Steven today, as his training is starting to get busier. Him leaving for Iraq has been on my mind alot, especially since he just received his mission that he will be doing over there which is very dangerous. Everyday is so different from the next... some days I can't be happier even though I miss him SO MUCH and some days just suck. Today is one of those days that suck! Ehhh.... hope to hear from everyone again soon! Take care! XO

I know what you mean, some days can suck, and I've had a few of those days, but most of them are going pretty well. My hubby is where he's supposed to be in Afghanistan and he's gotten situated in there pretty well, he's been able to talk to me quite a bit, with the internet and the phone a few times, so it hasn't been too bad, it's been much easier than I thought so far. Today was one of those days where he didn't get to contact me, which always suck, but other than that's it all good. The other day was hard, I got an ultrasound and it was just sad that he wasn't here with me to experience it. Well I hope you're all doing fine and your holiday plans are going well!!

if theres anybody out there that can cheer me up, my husband left on his deployment and today is one of them days for me .I feel lonely and im missing him so much.it helps to know that im probably not the only one feeling like this.thanks for all the support.....

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Originally posted by lovingmyhusband:
if theres anybody out there that can cheer me up, my husband left on his deployment and today is one of them days for me .I feel lonely and im missing him so much.it helps to know that im probably not the only one feeling like this.thanks for all the support.....

I sent you an e-mail

Hey all! It's been awhile since I've written. I've finally had some time to sit down and write on here...how is everyone doing?! I hope everyone is doing ok. Hang in there ladies! We stand by our men, we need to be strong! I've talked to Steven everyday since he left for Fort Dix. He comes home for Christmas and then the day after he's shipping to Kuwait. It's going to be a bittersweet holiday for me. I thought saying goodbye to him for 2 months was hard, well saying goodbye for 10 months is going to be even harder! I hope everyone is staying busy and that you all have a great Christmas!