is it as bad as they say for women getting deployed? in the womens discussion boards they say how they get harrased sexual and raped!then i was reading keeping the intamacy and all these women are writing all these sexual stories and doing web shows. i wonder if theres any conection these guys are sexualy frustrated and your messing with them. why would you do that. i heard they haVE coed sleeping arrangments is this true? if so how does the military expect to not nhave soldiers sleeping with the oppisite sex if they have them sleeping together? i think the deployments should be shorter there would be less cheating and raping and harrasments if it where like 4 month deployments
I have female friends in the army and never had any kind of trouble like that.
And no I don't think that whatever a wife or husband do between themselves has anything to do with that.The men who rape or cheat is simply because they are rapists and cheaters no matter what or where.
I have to add...we are not animals we can control ourselves,if someone doesn't it's a choice.
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i agree with we can control ourselves. but last time i checked we are animals mammals to be exact.im glad to hear that there is another side to all the horror stories of rape and harrasment. does anyone know about coed sleeping arrangments. all the stories in these discussion boards about wifes being lonley and husbands trying to sleep with every female deployed had me sickand
From what I know--there is NO co-ed sleeping quarters in the Army at all. Not sure where you're hearing this, but no one I know of has someone of the opposite sex sleeping in their tent/quarters. As for the rape and cheating....regrettably, yes, it's happened. I've heard of rapes but they're far and few between. Cheating--well that will happen no matter what the occupation or the location. All you can do is worry about your marriage and not everyone else's. One thing I would suggest--quit reading up on all this stuff. All it does is breed doubt and drama that doesn't/may not exist in your life.
i don't have any doubt about my wife. i supported her joining the military. i thought everybody in the military was in it for the honor integrity all the other soldier codes. then when i went on the female boards i was like what did i get my wife into.she is going to be around all these horn dogs their wifes just got done doing some web show and now he's harassing my wife trying to get some. i read about the coed sleeping in tents on a report on women getting raped while deployed. one of those links. i just never thought the military was bad like what i've been reading. at least for women. specialy at bct. she did her bct at ft. jackson and from what i read and heard from my neighbor that saw a report on fire duty that the ds were messing around with the newbies and there were problems with rape. she told me while she was there she heard somone got raped in another bay. these people just got off the street they can't go without any for a couple of months.
what i read about the coed sleeping in tents was if there is one female in the unit they have to sleep her in a tent with males they wont put her in a tent by herself
Yes.,., they do sleep together and I hate it too! Because my husband was previously told that the men had to sleep with the women and the women had to get dressed in front of all of them too! Crappy,., good luck
I was deployed to Iraq in Aug 2006-Aug2007...There are NO co-ed bunking in theater..No worries there!! As far as the other issues go-as females in the military, we do have to prove ourselves to our male counterparts!! But, not to worry, because overseas, the males are our biggest supporters...At least on my last deployment they were!! I'm leaving in September again for another deployment..my prayers are with you and your wife for a safe return!!
a word of warning... I'm an OIF vet that is now out and my wife is deployed to the box. her instructor raped her 2 weeks ago. she came forward last week with my help and support.. they took her gun away from her, sent her back to work, and the guy is still there in charge of her. you make sure your wife can defend herself and is strong emotionally. my wife knows how to protect herself, but was scared to do anything because he was in charge of her. the 1st sgts haven't done anything to either. keep her in ya'lls prayer.
Just like in the civilian world it depends on the people. Your wife could just as easily be harrassed or raped in the civilian world. In wither situation it is always best for a woman to be able to defend herself. Of all the women I have known that were deployed they all have said that the guys in their units have always treated them like little sisters and they were overprotective. They said it was kind of cute...lol. You need to not worry about those things. You need to concentrate on the relationship with your wife. Being apart is hard but you need to focus on your relationship and not her relationship with other people. Good luck to you.
