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Can two people that are in the coast guard be married?
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Yes. Matter of fact, all the people in the Coast Guard could be married.
But I believe you're asking if two people who are both serving in the Coast Guard could be married to each other. The answer is yes. |
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Oh ok.. and are they stationed together?
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That depends... Two married members may not serve aboard the same afloat unit, nor may they both serve at the same shore command if said command totals less than 60 active duty members... Something to keep in mind though is that there are many towns/cities in the U.S. where two or more commands are co-located... For instance... You could be stationed aboard the CGC Mellon and your significant other on the CGC Midgett... You could both also be ststioned at a large ISC, such as ISC Kodiak... The only catch being that you may not serve in the same department (basically you can't share the same direct Chain of Command... The reason being is that if a member's wife/husband ended up being their supervisor then that explains itself as far as possible problems... Another notable bit of info is that while the CG will normally try to co-locate married members, needs of the service prevail... Always... So keep that in mind... Any other questions you may have regarding the issue, just let me know and if I can't answer them, I'll find out for you... ET3 Sends... |
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Now in the Navy that is a little different. A ship goes out to sea with 100 sailors on it and 50 couples come back.
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Thanks.. I was wondering whats the best job in the Coast Guard?
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The best job in the CG! Not sure how your question relates to your original question of marriage. Are you asking what the best job is for couples married in the CG? I take it you are not in the CG but your prospective spouse is. You are comparing apples and oranges. As far as jobs it all depends on what you like to do. Remember, your rate will be what you will do for the most part where ever you go! So being a storekeeper for the sake of being close to your spouse might not be what you want to do. At the end of the day, your will hate life, your job and probably your spouse because your job (which will be there for you EVERY day) is not what you like. Most of the couples I know that made it work for them were not based on their type of job/rate, but the location where they managed to get stationed. Good luck and I suggest you do your homework (and for what I can tell, you have a lot of homework to do) first.
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Ros;
To further answer your question, there are other prohibitions against romantic relationships. Hopefully, most relationships start romantic before their is a marriage. The same prohibtions about how people are assigned applies to who you can have a romantic relationship with. Also, there are prohibtions against certain spreads in paygrade. An Officer and an enlisted person can not engage in a romantic relationship. |
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Im just confused... because my fiance is in the coast guard and i will be in august... So I'm just wondering if we wiwll be able to be stationed in the same district? Also.. if its even allowed to be married if both of us are in. He has a diffrent job than what I want to while im in.
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Be a Yeoman... if you are asking what the best job in the Coast Guard is.. lol.
Im sure someone is going to yell at me now... |
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Yell??? No... Scoff??? Yes... lol Rosanna, What is your prospective DH's rate??? And what rate(s) are you interested in??? And where is he stationed??? ET3 Sends... |
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"Does anyone know where the love of God goes when the waves turn the minutes to hours?" - Gordon Lightfoot![]() |
I went through Cape May late in '82. We had two sister companies, Sierra-113 and Tango-113. A wife was in our company (Tango) while her husband was in Sierra. If I remember correctly, after graduation, he went to the 210' at Cape May while she was assigned to someplace on the base. Don |
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It will feel good after it stops hurting. |
My wife was in the guard. While we were stationed in the same area, IF I had not stayed behind on a patrol, it would have worked out we would have seen each other 1 week out of 5 months. We were stationed in the same area for 11 months. Then I transferred to D7, she was in D5. The detailers try to work with you, but you have to remember "NEEDS of the SERVICE".
Best of luck. BM2.5 sends Not trying to scare you, but giving you some reality of what can happen. |
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Reality is that member to member stinks. Esp when you through a couple kids into the mix. It is all "Needs of the Service".-like truebm2 said.
What if both of you got boats? Sister boats,and you never got to see each other? Or during Transfer season the detailer tells you that you can't get stationed near one another? I say,if you want to get married to a Coastie..then great,if you want to join the CG..awesome...My recommendation,don't do both unless you want to incur stress |
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Thanks this helped me make a decision.. I choose the CG over getting married then.. Thanks guys and gals!
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10 day suspension. TOS Sections 6i and 6ii. -1110 (10/11/09) |
7 years in the CG. I am married to a civilian, I have seen more Civilian married to CG get seperated than CG to CG. From what I have seen the CG goes to great lengths to station Married members close to one another, most of the time on the same base. I have seen married members get short toured in order for them to be stationed close together. I have seen many married Coasties have wonderful marriages, I have see many fail. But not one divorce was caused by the USCG. I hear people claim it to be so. But BS. The Coast Guard has never ever made or sunk a marriage. I have seen more Civ. to CG couples get seperated, because of jobs, she is not moving there, grandma in cincinati needs a care taker, Alaska is to cold, Mississippi is to hot. People love to be victims of thier situation. Thier Peace of mind and happiness are dictacted by the world around them. The world and it's people really dominate them. But it's all BS. Happiness, and peace mind come from within. not from without. So, you can buy into the idea of only this happens or that happens then you will be happy. Good luck. You will always be waiting for the world to make you happy. Marriage problems, stress, all the like are of our making. not the CG's, Not the worlds, They are ours and ours alone. And the great wise men of the world know this, and because they know thier stress is thiers, they do not have stress. And If this Post pisses anyone off. That's just proof that the world, which includes me has absolute control over you. |
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My wife and I are both active duty in the Coast Guard. We are currently going through our 2nd seperation.
The first time I was stationed on CGC Mellon while she was at ISC Seattle. I transferred to CGC Harry Claibotne in Galveston, TX. She followed 7 months later. Currently, she is stationed at ISC San Pedro, CA and I am at SFO Galveston. She has our boys with her there & we have been seperated this time for a little over 8 months now. For the "most family friendly of the services" this happens more than you think. It is however what you make of it. Remember, as much as it might suck, the mission always comes first. |
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Dogshow I was simply stating that married member to member is stressful. I don't recommend it. Being that I was in that situation for years,and was faced with issues I no longer face being a civi. They use to quote me all the time :"DEPENDENTS DON'T COME ISSUED IN YOUR SEA BAG"
BLA BLAH BLA. When they tell you they will "try" to station you close to your spouse,that is simply what they do. TRY. It is not guaranteed. Signu sorry you are going through some rough times. and you are right,it is what you make of it. |
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For the record, I don't reccommend it if you can avoid it. It just so happens that I married a wonderful woman who is my best friend, she just happened to be in the Coast Guard!! LOL... Member to Member marraige is very stressfull, seperation is even worse. I find that I can get through it by making the most of my time. I volunteer and work with the kids at the Shriners Burn Hospital here in Galveston. I am active in the local motorcycle community. When all else fails it is important not to forget that there is an enexhaustable source of strength from above. |
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New Member |
So in other words it either marrage or the CG...??
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