Hi, my boyfriend is working on joining the military. Frankly, I'm not wild about it, but I want to support him and I don't want this to end our relationship. With those conditions in mind, I'm now trying to work through things in my own mind to make sure (I hope) that I can deal with everything.

One of my big questions has to do with careers. I'm in international business. While the world seems to be going international, it's still quite difficult to find jobs in int'l business, and in some locations more difficult than in others. What I'm asking is if there are others out there who have a career that makes it difficult to move around. If so, what do you do? How do you make it work?

I'd appreciate any advice... I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed with everything (career stuff and the military thing in general).

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First thing I would be asking myself if I were you is if I wanted to pay to move so often. As a non-spouse (sorry if I'm reading too much into this-but you didn't indicate you were intending to get married) you pay for your own moves, he would probably not be allowed to live with you, you would not be allowed the benefits of the base, etc. I understand the want to be near him, and the desire to wait to make sure you're ready to be married before it happens. That said, if you're meant to be the relationship will survive the seperation until you are ready and married. Even if you were married, depending on training you may not be allowed to go anyway.

As for moving and jobs, plenty of spouses (men and women) have successful careers despite the moving. If you play your cards right, you can create a network to help you out as you move. Also, look at how you market your skills, you may be qualified to do quite a bit more than simply "international business". Getting a job outside your comfort zone or primary skill set may be a bit uncomfortable at first, but you will have more skills to market later when you move again.

Well I have one semester left of college been away from my husband for the last four years as he's been moving around from school to school and me getting my degree here at my University. As much at the beginning i wanted to transfer to be close to him I came to the realization that me staying here was the best. Which it turned out to be since i wouldnt have seen him much if i did transfer and he has moved from one coast to the other. My degree is international studies and criminal justice. I do plan on doing a lot of internation work. I have decided that these past four years i have found my independance and I want to travel overseas a lot and will be gone a lot like my husband. However, we have made it work this long and it will work in the future. Now that he is in one place and I am almost done I will hopefully see him more and find the job that I love. Dont lose yourself in this whole process like I almost did. I love that I have my own career path in the near future and as much as I support and love my husband I have goals and dreams too. Things will work out, you have to work hard, stay focused and be understanding and communicative to each other. I am here for you if you need to talk since I was in your shoes not so long ago. Good luck