The Supreme Court is about to consider a very important case that affects the futures of active duty military members. Check out what is going on here: Your Military Retirement
Originally posted by RahRahRachel: The Supreme Court is about to consider a very important case that affects the futures of active duty military members. Check out what is going on here: Your Military Retirement
I don't think that an EX deserves any money from a service person be it man or woman after they retire..The EX didn't put their life on the line to get that pension they should not be entitled to receive any of it! Period!!! Most of all after they re marry...that is insane!! They need to change that law....And if you think otherwise you can't possibly support the troops. Unless your a gold digger just looking to cash in on someone elses courage and dedication to country>>!!!! Why would a spouse take 50% of a pension unless its to hurt and take away from a service persons way of life. Its despicible to say the least~!!!
Problem is the victim mentality in this country. So, in 20 years (or longer), when MALE ex-spouses start going after their FEMALE military former-spouses retirement checks... we MAY see the law changed.
i.e. this will not change until the other boot drops.
I DISAGREE!!!THE SPOUSE THAT IS NOT IN THE MILITARY SHOULD GET HALF OF WHATEVER!!! THATS NOT BEING A GOLD DIGGER!! OFTEN PPL FORGET ABOUT THE SPOUSE BACK AT HOME TRYING TO KEEP THING UP DEAL WITH THE KIDS WHILE MOST OF THE TIME THE MAN OR WOMAN THATS IN THE MILITARY IS DOING WHATEVER!!! MOST OF THEM CHEAT ON THE HUSBAND AND WIFE BACK HOME SO...PLEASE I DONT BELIEVE THE HYPE ON HE HIS FIGHTING FOR OUR COUNTRY THEY CRAP!!!
Originally posted by jguerrero5: I DISAGREE!!!THE SPOUSE THAT IS NOT IN THE MILITARY SHOULD GET HALF OF WHATEVER!!! THATS NOT BEING A GOLD DIGGER!! OFTEN PPL FORGET ABOUT THE SPOUSE BACK AT HOME TRYING TO KEEP THING UP DEAL WITH THE KIDS WHILE MOST OF THE TIME THE MAN OR WOMAN THATS IN THE MILITARY IS DOING WHATEVER!!! MOST OF THEM CHEAT ON THE HUSBAND AND WIFE BACK HOME SO...PLEASE I DONT BELIEVE THE HYPE ON HE HIS FIGHTING FOR OUR COUNTRY THEY CRAP!!!
Spoken like a true ex!
Ex means ex.
Ex's deserve NOTHING. It dosen't mater what they did "back home", nothing they had to put up with was as hard as what the service member put up with. If you weren't the one out there getting your butt shot at you deserve NOTHING from the service member.
Women are equal remember? Why do they deserve to make a living off a service members job? Aren't they able to make their own living, every law says so. Why didn't THEY join and go thru everything the other half did? Their pay was being supported all those years and not having to go thru it all. Now, they wish to be supported even though they don't want to be part of the service member's life. They don't want/need him now that he is broken and wounded. Fine, they should also have to make their own way.
Are they less than men? Why can't they make their own way? If they can't make it without the support of a man then say so. Stop yelling about being "equal" and admit that they need someone to help them make their way. If they need someone to support them then they should admit it and get on with their lives. One can't say they are equal and need no one to help them then turn around and say, but I can't make it without "his" help. They simply want it both ways. Oh, by the way.......the man deserves nothing as well.
And yes, I am a woman. I worked (and not at home) for my retirement, so should they.
Originally posted by 14379459: It dosen't mater what they did "back home", nothing they had to put up with was as hard as what the service member put up with.
I dare you to say that in the military spouses/relationships forum. You, madam, are very ignorant. If you'd ever read that forum, you'd see that the world isn't as black and white as you put it.
Have you ever had a loved one away in the service? We don't have it as hard as they do, I agree... but it's still incredibly tough. Just because I work and support myself does not mean that it isn't hard with my service member gone.
Giving an ultimatum statement like that only shows your own ignorance. Please shut your mouth.
I start training in appx. one month, I am a male and my spouse (will be my spouse Feb. 7, 2009) WILL be going through hardtimes as much as, if not even more than I will. She has already expressed how worried and distraught she will be once I leave, and that's just for training. I can handle it, at least I think I can, but I know her mentality and I know me being away from her is going to break her down a bit. I can only hope that I can provide her with enough strenght to carry on while I'm away. I know she won't cheat on me, as I WON'T cheat on her, but we will both miss each other. Anyone who says that a service members spouse does not go through half the sh** a service member does obviously doesn't have a spouse, or hell even a loved one who gives a damn about them. Like I said, I haven't even started training yet, and my fiance (soon to be wife)is having trouble with this. If you talk to them, give them words of encouragement and stay in as much contact with them as possible, most importantly maintain the love, you and your spouse/loved one(s) can go through ANYTHING.
