My son just graduated from his Basic Training in Ft. Jackson, SC. Well, when I get there he tells me that him and this other Female soldier are getting married! As you can imagine, I'm like WHAT?? You haven't known her long enough. Just having met her while in basic they both say they are in love. Well, they go to talk to the Chaplain on the base on family day and find out that they can apply for the license on graduation day but can't get married because there is not enough time. She was leaving to go to AIT in Ft. Lee, VA and he has his AIT there in Ft. Jackson.

My question, she is an E-3 from Los Angeles he's an E-3 from Delaware. The chaplain told them to both request a 4 day pass memorial weekend and get married then that's the only way they can and that way they'll be together he has to do it before he has his orders for his 1st duty station (she'll end her AIT first). She also said then my son would come back to Ft. Jackson AIT and turn in his paperwork showing that he's married and in turn he would be stationed where ever his wife is it's the Married Couples Program (if I'm not mistaken).

Question, once married one of them will get BAH w/dependents, right? Is it usually the higher rank one or is it off of his rank? If she gets the BAH w/dependents, his E-2 pay would not go up, would it?

Also, they both put in for hometown recruiting which would give them more leave before going to their 1st duty station. Is that something new they do?

Thanks for all the answers! Wish me luck and them (definately too soon I say, but who knows what will bring while they are 5 hours away from one another at AIT for 7+ weeks
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Question, once married one of them will get BAH w/dependents, right?

Wrong, neither one of them will be entitled to BAH/Dep's as neither one is a dependant of the other.

Dependents means someone listed on your page 2 (or whatever it is called by that branch) and you are sponsoring them, getting them ID, etc... As they are both AD members they are not each others dependents so therefore they will not get BAH w/dependents. Dependents in their case would be children. They will get BAH w/o dependents but ONLY if they are stationed at the same place and live off base or in housing. If they are not stationed together then they can be made to live in barracks and therefore not get BAH w/o dependents.

There is no guarantee that he will be stationed where she is and vice versa. They are going to go where they are needed which could be in Japan and Germany.

also. make sure they come up with a plan for if she gets pregnant. They may not be thinking about it (or think that birth control pills are a sure-fire way not to get pregnant only to find out later that no they're not...not that I have any experience in the latter reason or anything), but if they have a kid they need a family care plan. Where will the child go if they are both deployed at the same time? during work? Who will the child live with if they are not stationed together (never a garuntee).

(How did they even talk enough while in basic to know this is right???? If I had looked at a guy crosseyed while in boot my butt would have been set back in training)

Sorry for the sidebar. Anyway, point is, those plans need to be in place BEFORE GETTING MARRIED. If something happens and they don't have a plan one of them is out of the military (contrary to popular belief, not always the female, it's up to needs of service). If the one that gets out recieved any sort of bonus money, it has to be paid back, he or she also runs the risk of losing the GIBill, VA benefits, etc.

Hometown recruiting is not necessarily always approved.

Thanks for the information. I'm not sure how they got to talk, that's what I said too and all they said was they were in the same company!

So, they would both be entitled to the BAH without dependents rate if they were stationed together and lived off base?

I doubt they even thought of a plan in case she were to get pregnant, I'm going to mention it to them.

My future DIL has found out she is going to be stationed in Ft. Hood, TX. I did mention to them about a FAMILY CARE PLAN and they are working on that. Is there a form they need to complete, or just write one up? Who do they give it to?

She put in for a 4 day memorial day pass to be able to go get married and it was approved.

Here is the Army Family Care Plan form. That's the starting point for them.

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My future DIL has found out she is going to be stationed in Ft. Hood, TX. I did mention to them about a FAMILY CARE PLAN and they are working on that. Is there a form they need to complete, or just write one up? Who do they give it to?

She put in for a 4 day memorial day pass to be able to go get married and it was approved.

They don't need a family care plan unless they have children.

I wasn't trying to imply they needed one filled out now. I was just saying it's something they need to discuss now. Even on birth control things can happen (my son is living proof of this) and it's something that needs to be discussed before marriage....just like raising kids does. Just a bit more complex, and can be made even more complex if not stationed together.

My son just finished his AIT and during the graduation they announced his name and said "duty station ft. hood texas" so he'll be with his wife. He'll report there on August 7th. I'm so glad they will be together.

Also when he went to finance they gave him a Acknowledgement of Paternity that he has to have filled out. Does anyone know anything about that? He does have the 2 boys. He goes to court for his child support the end of July which works out good as he'll be on leave. Just not sure what this form is. It's a PA form too they gave him in SC. He thought he was to go to the hospital where they were born but once we got there they told him that he had to go to Public Welfare which I don't understand that as the mother is no on welfare.

If they are both active duty army they will both get BAH at the without dependents rate. The part about the higher ranking person getting it at the with dependents rate only applies if they have a child.

Well 5 months being married and they are now going to file for a divorce. Knew it wouldn't last and I told them both that. The problem is they have to have lived (at least one of them) in texas for 6 months which she will be there December 6 months then they can file and it takes 60 days after that to be divorced. He is home on emergency leave now and told me that they were going to try and work things out but she said that she was taking her leave and going home to cali to consult with her family and whatever they said she would do..so they said get a divorce...she never has any money and probably won't file for the divorce..I told him he needs to start it because I can just see her staying married to him (she's money hungry) because she only enlisted for 2 years then try to get alimony from him once she's out. He says she can't she's an E-3 but once she's out she maybe can try and get it....

My son still hasn't received his bah (only a partial aug 1st check) and they are (his 1st sgt and finance) telling him that he won't receive anything like bah diff for the sons he has even though there is a court order. He had even given his paperwork to his commander who said it would be straightened out and it still isn't. Supposedly his wife is getting bah w/dependents..(probably not the right area to post this..sorry)

does she have children? or has she claimed his as her deps?

And get him to look up the JFRT's and take in the regs thats how he has to provide support for his deps. and tell him if his first 1st and fiance are not helping go to legal and his commander and higher if he needs to, its not because of the court order but he has to provide a house for his deps


and do you know how she only managed to enlist for 2 years I thought the min for all service was 4....

Rgbilyeu, no she doesn't have any children with him or any of her own. I'm thinking she has his on her page 2 but she insists she doesn't.

His 2 sons live with his ex gf so he doesn't provide a house for them he just pays the support each month which is court ordered. He has went as high as his commander with all the paperwork and they said they would get it straight but it has yet to be straight. He moved back in the Barrackes October 6th because of their situation (they are separated now) but they still owe him the money from August and September...

I don't know how she enlisted for 2 years she said 2 years active and then 2 years reserve.

Maybe she came in under the "Active First" option (if that still exists). That used to be very typical for a reserve member -- to serve two years of active duty and then transfer to a drilling reserve unit. This could also be a Guard thing.

Other than that, I believe the minimum is 3 active + training and then IRR for the remainder of the 8 year commitment (this is what my son, a 19D, signed up for).

Who knows. I don't talk to her to know how she got a 2 year enlistment I just remember her telling me she'll be in fort hood for her entire time before she gets out.

She may have done the Active First program.