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I did not know how bad it was with Divorces with in the military,I Myself was married for 22yrs. we worked hard to give our self's and daughters a good life, My life started to changed in 03.my ex husband i should say changed,fast cars and running the streets became more important, with the war you never know when your last day will be. he cared only about him self. he forgot he had a family. I gave him once a month $750 and payed for the food sometimes he would give me $60. i would buy all of my and daughters needs.and pay my own bills. he told me i should be giving him more so i stopped giving him the $750 in 04 by this time our daughters were 20 and 18 years old. he told our 18yr old that we were parasites living off him . he told me he wanted us to leave our home of 10yrs and told me to go back to England. I met my ex over here 24 yrs ago. he was getting ready for retirement. of june 05. on the 1st of march he had a near fatal car accident in his mustang.he thought he would never walk again.I took 3month of work to be there for him 24/7 I nursed him back to health he could not do anything for him self. he also had started some college classes on base before the accident,so after 7weeks of being in bed i would take him in a wheel chair to therapy and his classes,with no help from USAF..one day he said lets go for a meal and in the restaurant he ask me when i was leaving,i was in shock. Then i found out our daughter had asked him one day if you and mummy are going to stay together now, he told her no but don't tell sue or she might not help me. well by july after a lot of fighting for my right to stay in my home,I was under the dr for depression.I signed my name for him to sell our home as he told me the mortgage people said i could not afford to stay there.to cut along story short, i lost everything he got a job in Korea making $80 to $100,000 a yr plus retirement.he left in sep 05 but before he left i got a lawyer and he at to pay me $1,000 alimony.he was so upset,I did get a apartment,my whole life changed I managed to keep my self going for 2yrs then one day after many many games played by him i lost it did not want to live no more my depression got the better of me, after 11yr at the same place being a professional skin care consultant and makeup artist for 28yrs. And a good wife and mother, and putting my life on hold to be there for my family and supporting my husband.with the help from family and friends, i made decision to go back to england. in oct 07 my ex and his lawyer played on my depression,has i had locked my self away in my apartment for 7months cutting myself off from everyone.but my friends would not give up on me, and my mother and father and family back in england got me to go home. with a lot of support and love from my family, im doing better. but in july 08 i came back as my ex told me he was not going to pay me alimony anymore. so here i go again he stopped the court order with out going to the courts, thinking i would not fight for what is right. so we are now waiting to go back to court,im staying with a friend no home so you could say im homeless, he got away with everything bank acct: everything we owned,the only thing that he did leave me was a life time STD!!! He came back in sep 08 payed $94,000 cash for 08 mercedes benz and bought a 4 bedroom house. And our daughter who is now 22 and her son, our grandson. are also homeless her husband had a baby with someone else, And she is now living with her mother in law,I do hope soon that my daughter and i and my grandson can have a home of our own, its christmas in 4 days my ex owes me $4,000 we should have had a court date in nov but his lawyer asked to put it back until dec 18th guess what it is now put back until jan 26 09 because he is in contempt of court and might need to go to jail until he pays so instead of just paying me he would see us with nothing over christmas. And USAF say we are family. this war as messed up a lot of family's. And im sure my daughter and i are not a lone. But i know GOD as got this The first will be last, and the last will be first, Thank you for reading this Please keep us in your prays And a merry christmas from fayetteville nc

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