I am a total & permanent retired soldier since 1997. During my last short tour my ex-wife left me for someone else. However she still entitled to 35% of my retire pay. I have wrote to several congresman and senators about this injustice. Why can they pass a bill were a spouse after re-marrying stop getting this pay. My marriage was even annuled by the church because of her infidelity but it seems like the military don't care. They just go across the boar with no exemptions. I am fully suportive of spouses getting this pay after the required ten years but why should I continue to pay part of my retirement after the spouse was unfaithful while you are serving your country on an isolated tour. Is like rewarding her for been unfaithful instead of suport you while you are serving that isolated tour. For ten years I been waiting for a response from someone, but all I get from congress is that they are thinking about this topic but nothing has ever been done. I am sure that there are thousands of soldiers going through this same injustice. However they use us but once you retired or live the service you are just a cero to the left as far as the government is concern. Just as they are trying to increase Tricare, while spending billions to give to Iraqui soldiers and their families.

Your reasons are Biblically correct and the fact that the marrage was annuled is a testimony to your rigthtiousness. Having a marrage annuled means she was never your wife. I asked the Priests a lot of questions even though I was never married out of confussion from things I was hearing in the work place. I would ask a Priest to help you find a Christian lawyer to persue this matter. I can't see why your paying for someone that isn't a dependent nor had any interest in honoring the marrage vows.

Military divorce rates have always been much higher than their civilian counter parts. There are many reasons why this is so. I don't pretend to know all of them, I suppose there are as many reasons as there are couples married. These reasons that I list here are double edge swords meaning they apply to both the husband and wife. As you can see, some of these reasons are related to deployments.

* Lonliness and depression
* The desire to be physically loved & needed
* Long separations
* Over time people do change and when deployed you don't see the changes and this can be shocking.
* Money - lack of it
* Sex - Lack of it
* Friends with good intentions can lead you astray
* In-laws can help or destroy a relationship
* Alcohol can make it easier for someone to stray when alone
* Physical and/or emotional abuse
* Spouse not living where other half is stationed (State side)
* Lack of communicating
* A good relationship is where both spouses have common interests and are best friends.

Exnavy_76 DM(A)2
Proud Vietnam Vet